If you’re tired of swinging between trying really hard and giving up entirely, if you’re worn out by the idea that more discipline is the answer — this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

In this episode, I unpack one of the most common (and most damaging) myths midlife women carry: that they’re the problem. That if they could just get more willpower, they’d finally be able to eat better, move more, and feel good in their skin. Spoiler alert: You’re not the problem. You’re smart. You’re capable. You’re also a human being — not a machine in need of better programming. What you need isn’t more force. It’s more respect.

I’ll introduce you to the 3Rs — a practical, powerful tool that helps you move from self-criticism to self-respect. This isn’t another health plan. This is how we actually make health habits stick — with care, not control.

Timeline Summary:

[1:18 ] - The seductive lie of willpower — and why it’s not working
[4:44 ] - The hidden cultural conditioning behind “sticking to the plan”
[8:32 ] - Why control feels safe — but leaves us exhausted
[12:15 ] - Sarah’s story: from burnout to sustainable change
[18:47 ] - Step 1: Recognise — see your thoughts for what they are
[23:20 ] - Step 2: Respect — listen to the need underneath the pattern
[28:30 ] - Step 3: Rechoose — act from care, not coercion
[32:10 ] - Why this work is simple — but not easy (and totally worth it)

Links & Resources:
🎧 Download the Midlife Body Image Assessment + audio guide. It helps you see what’s really driving your food and body noise — and what to do to get relief. 

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Closing Thoughts:
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