#14: John Register - Heroism on One Foot
Why is ignorance a gift?
Children come with innocence; when do we lose our own?
Why are we afraid to tell our own truth?
How does sympathy drive us apart?
If I have 16,729 friends , why do I feel so alone?
Join us as we discuss these and other compelling topics with Paralympian and executive coach John Register on this episode of The Rabbi and the Shrink.
1:00 People are uncomfortable telling their truths and articulating the object of their fears
All fear stems from fear of the unknown
2:30 Kids are willing to say what adults are afraid to
Embrace the new normal
New is “no prior frame of reference”
5:00 Kids come with innocence… when did we lose ours?
Labels and categories create tension
Empathy vs. sympathy
Honor and respect others for who they are and on their terms
10:00 Have low expectations and work to raise the bar
11:00 Ignorance is a good thing if it makes us curious
We need to be inquisitive and want to expand our knowledge base
14:00 The fear of being misinterpreted of of inadvertently giving offense suppresses our curiosity
16:00 Swifter, higher, stronger -- always set the bar higher above each plateau
The nature of steps -- the top of one is the bottom of the next
A door is a point of transition: always look for the next door
20:00 How do we manage a step backward?
Always tell the truth and take responsibility
23:00 We all have disabilities -- some are more evident than others
Give every person the benefit of the doubt that they are trying to overcome their own challenges
27:00 Find the quiet space in your daily routine and use them as anchoring rituals
Develop good habits and avoid decision fatigue
32:00 We need support systems
Friendship is a profound gift, and we need to seek out people of quality and invest ourselves in them
34:00 We need to be able to take so others can give
36:00 Giving hard news, making hard decisions, supporting others in their decisions
38:30 Relationships may never recover from trust betrayed
Standing up for principles, even when there’s a price to pay
42:00 In a culture of trust, there is less opportunity for giving or taking offense
When truth outweighs fear, we commit to a courageous life
46:00 Tell people closest to you your secrets, then you won’t have to be afraid they will come out
Integrity calls us to take responsibility and be accountable
50:00 Word of the day: interstice -- take a pause
We should respond, not react, which requires us to take a moment before we speak or act
52:00 What’s one area where you can bring a truth to light and share it with another?
56:00 The founder of the Paralympics
The refusal to accept that circumstances can’t be improved is the essence of ethics