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17 | How to Build Connection After Emotional Regulation Takes a Backseat to Meltdowns

17 | How to Build Connection After Emotional Regulation Takes a Backseat to Meltdowns

Update: 2025-11-13
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  • Ever replayed a moment after your child’s meltdown and thought, “Why did I do that again?”




  • Do you wish you could respond with peace instead of guilt after losing your cool?




  • Wonder how to rebuild connection when emotions run high for both you and your child?




Episode Highlights

In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most healing, hope-filled parts of parenting strong-willed and neurodivergent kids — repair.


No matter how much you work on emotional regulation, you’ll still have moments when things don’t go as planned. But peace doesn’t come from perfection — it comes from reconnection.


Amanda shares what real repair looks like after a rupture, how to restore emotional safety, and how to rebuild trust and connection with your child, even when meltdowns, defiance, or sensory overload happen.


You’ll learn how to:




  • Recognize what’s happening inside of you before trying to fix what’s happening around you.




  • Use the 3 R’s of Repair — Regulate, Reconnect, Reflect — to restore safety and model humility.




  • Respond to your child with compassion and confidence, even when they’re overwhelmed by ADHD, Autism (ASD), ODD, or PDA-related challenges.




  • Apply the Creation Cycle to renew your mind and partner with the Holy Spirit in the middle of hard moments.




Because here’s the truth, mama it’s not the meltdown that defines your relationship, but how you reconnect afterward.


Faith Anchor

“Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning.”

Lamentations 3:22 –23



Just like God’s mercies are new every morning, you get to mirror that same grace with your child. Every repair moment is a chance to show them what unconditional love looks like connection after chaos, mercy after rupture.


Challenge of the Week

This week, when a hard moment happens:


1️⃣ Pause and regulate yourself first.

2️⃣ Return to your child and name what happened gently.

3️⃣ Remind them of your love, even if they’re not ready to receive it yet.


Then, reflect on what shifted - not what went wrong, but how choosing repair created safety for both of you.


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Final Note

You’re not called to perfect parenting you’re called to faithful connection.

Every time you choose repair over shame, you’re reflecting the Father’s heart and modeling the kind of grace that changes generations.

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17 | How to Build Connection After Emotional Regulation Takes a Backseat to Meltdowns

17 | How to Build Connection After Emotional Regulation Takes a Backseat to Meltdowns

Amanda Calfee - Christian Life Coach, Mama of Strong-willed & Neurodivergent Kiddos