194 | embracing humanity + connection in autism with jessie caraway of the if you know one project
Description
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇
Dr. Tay sits down with Jessie Caraway, creator of the If You Know One Project, to talk about her family’s journey, her daughter’s autism diagnosis, and how the project grew out of a desire to build community and awareness.
They reflect on the long road to an autism diagnosis, reframing “high support needs,” and the importance of seeing each autistic child through a lens of humanity rather than fear or deficit. Jessie shares how her journey with her daughter, Eliza, inspired her to create the If You Know One Project — a space that celebrates individuality and connection through neurodiversity-affirming awareness, apparel, and storytelling.
Together, Dr. Tay and Jessie explore what it means to move forward with compassion, to hold complexity in parenting, and to remind families that every story — every one — matters.
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement
00:29 Host’s Background and Podcast Purpose
01:31 Guest Introduction and Family Background
02:01 Starting the If You Know One Project
03:29 Community Engagement and Resource Sharing
06:50 Challenges in the Diagnosis Journey
11:36 Navigating the Healthcare System
18:23 The If You Know One Project’s Mission and Future Goals
22:59 Navigating the Journey Together
23:22 Support for Families
24:04 Community and Connection
24:33 Understanding High Support Needs
25:22 The Value of Individuality
26:20 Perspective Shifts and Humanity
28:24 Building Trust and Communication
32:19 Sharing Stories and Advocacy
36:12 Encouragement for Parents
38:56 Final Thoughts and Resources
đź’› RESOURCES
⚡️ Connect with Jessie Caraway + The If You Know One Project:
Instagram → @jess_ifyouknowone
Etsy Shop → If You Know One
⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.
⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com
⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:
Instagram → @the.dr.tay
TikTok → @the.dr.tay