ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

In this episode, Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of supporting parents in the autistic journey. Joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom and coach for parents of autistic children, they discuss the role of parents as primary co-regulators for their children as well as strategies for staying regulated, building self-trust, and supporting their children's behaviors. They also explore systemic issues, coping mechanisms, and the need for a holistic approach that includes listening to autistic voices. Despite the focus on parents, the core message underscores the importance of a balanced support system for the entire family unit.

00:00  Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:28  Lisa Candera's Background and Passion

00:45  The Role of Parents in Autism Support

01:28  Podcast Introduction and Disclaimer

02:30  Lisa's Journey as a Single Mom

05:25  Challenges and Early Diagnosis

06:48  Navigating Resources and Support Systems

08:27  The Importance of Parental Education

16:04  Understanding OCD and Autism

22:59  Coaching and Self-Regulation

28:21  Understanding the Distinctness of OCD

28:30  The Complexity of Compulsions

29:01  Parental Instincts and Fix-It Mode

29:31  The Illogical Nature of OCD

30:06  OCD and Autism: The Just Right Feeling

31:22  Building Acceptance in Parenting

32:22  The Psychological Definition of Acceptance

33:46  Behavioral Issues and Parental Pressure

35:05  Supporting Parents: Tips and Strategies

37:24  Validating Experiences Before Problem Solving

38:01  Common Challenges and Seeking Support

39:21  Navigating Grief and Acceptance

40:02  Ambiguous Grief and GOMO

41:17  Being the Safe Person and Self-Advocacy

44:31  Parental Regulation and Child's Behavior

46:36  Building a Well-Rounded Support Team

48:29  The Power of Tone and Voice

52:12  Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ Continue learning from Lisa Candera at theautismmomcoach.com/ and @theautismmomcoach on Instagram and Facebook

⚡️ Download the Meltdown Action Plan

⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.

⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com

⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:

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