#21: Claire Vande Polder - Happy Marriages
What makes a successful relationship?
Is marriage really the happily ever after part or do they still require work?
What is reasonable to expect versus what do you need to accept?
Find the answers to these questions and more as we talk to Claire Vande Polder, the author of Making Marriage Happy: Hard-Won Wisdom from Real Couples
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What I came up with is a book that is basically, what happy couples do as told in their own words. It's the only book, I know of where all the expert advice comes from people who are only experts in their own relationship and what they do that makes them happy.
When I was a younger person I looked at people who had been married for a while and I thought, okay they're just they're like on autopilot right?
it took a lot of time before they understood that's not who my husband is, this thing that I really wish my wife was doing? That's really not who she is so, can I just lay off of that and let her be more who she is, and then take more of a look at what am I doing? How could I change myself? Could I change the way that I think about something because I have more control over that and just learn to love?