What to do when you're in the messy middle of grief? Sandi Waters' story highlights the complex challenges—and unexpected sources of strength—faced by widows.

In this episode, she candidly describes the overwhelming experience of watching her partner’s abilities slip away, caring for him, and the support she received from Rodney’s family and their adult daughter, who moved in to help.

Sandi and I talk about:

• Faith as Anchor: how faith became her main source of strength, especially in the darkest moments. She speaks openly about wrestling with anger, asking “why,” and ultimately trusting that something bigger was at work.
• The Messy Middle of Grief: the ongoing challenges of widowhood—the fear of being alone, learning to manage a household independently, and the uncertain “middle” phase of grief where the future feels unclear.
• Finding Community & Healing: Support from children, friends, church family, and fellow widows proved essential. Sandi also found solace and inspiration in the Widow 180 Podcast and started her own YouTube channel to document Rodney’s journey and help others facing dementia and loss.
• Giving Back & Looking Forward: She stepped out of her comfort zone with solo travels and is now leading a GriefShare group, discovering purpose in helping others. She emphasizes that healing comes from connection and support, not rushing the process.

Key Takeaways:

• Everyone’s grief journey is unique—there is no timeline for healing.
• Sharing stories and hearing from others who “get it” is crucial for widows feeling isolated.
• Allowing yourself to feel, to cry, and not judge your progress is important in the messy middle of grief.
• Faith, community, and giving back can become lifelines through the darkness.
• Practical steps—getting affairs in order, accepting help, and finding new routines—make the path a bit easier.
• Supporting others through grief (like leading support groups) can offer light, purpose, and even hope for the future.

Tune in to this episode for honest wisdom, real encouragement, and a reminder that even in the hardest seasons, hope and healing are possible.

Connect with Sandi:
Follow her journey and support others facing Alzheimer’s and widowhood on her YouTube channel: @thewaters9111

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