#32: Breeda Miller - Care for others by caring for yourself
Why is self-care a moral and ethical imperative?
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
What can we do to restore our collective faith in one another?
These and other critical questions are addressed when self-care expert Breeda Miller joins the Rabbi and the Shrink
1:00 Is self-care an ethical issue?
Take a break before you break
Only by taking care of ourselves can we take care of and be of service to others
You can only love others in proportion to how we love ourselves
4:00 “What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?”
There may be dreams we didn’t pursue that we still have time to realize
Can you tell your own story in a way that inspires others?
10:30 Stories provide the context that make information relevant
Simple stories often have the most profound impact and meaning
This generation is having a crisis of faith in one another, in ourselves, and in our future
What can we do to restore our collective faith?
We have to listen to what’s really important, to the story within the story
Taking care of ourselves helps us see through the fog
15:30 The problem with being outcome oriented is that we end up feeling frustrated unless we get the outcome we want and until we get the outcome
The journey really is the destination
Be kind with the truth
20:30 We have to practice what we preach
Don’t feel guilty acknowledging our own limitations
“I can do a year’s work in 9 months but not in 12 months”
Rest and recreation are not a break from work, they are part of the work
Self-care is a moral and ethical imperative
25:00 Mediation feels like a waste of time but it is essential maintenance
We need to take care of ourselves to ensure the quality of others’ experience with us
28:30 If you were given a gift of 4 hours, what would you do?
Take a walk, call a friend, read a book, go for a run, get a massage -- then find a way to do it
Short term goals for self care will help us reach our long term goals
Make a list of 2-minute, 5-minute, 10-minute activities so you’ll be ready to take advantage of opportunities when they arise
34:30 Word of the day: symbiosis
We want to be interdependent without being codependent
It’s not good for us to be alone, even though sometimes we need to be alone
The balance between nurturing ourselves and nurturing others creates a tension that we have to continuously manage
38:00 The Doctors formula for self-care: SCHEMTT
Sleep -- the right amount in the right conditions
Compassion -- for ourselves and others
Humor -- the kind that is kind
Exercise -- simple movement
Meaning -- a sense of purpose contextualizes everything else in our lives
Touch -- physically and emotionally
Take a break when you need one