DiscoverLove Each Other Better35: Do I Even Matter to You? How Appreciation Heals — and How to Make It Stick
35: Do I Even Matter to You? How Appreciation Heals — and How to Make It Stick

35: Do I Even Matter to You? How Appreciation Heals — and How to Make It Stick

Update: 2025-09-22
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Ever find yourself wondering, "Do I even matter to him/her/them?" despite all you do?

That painful question points to a fundamental human need: to contribute, to be seen, and to know that your presence truly makes a difference. When this need goes unmet, relationships can grow distant and disheartening.

In this episode, we explore why appreciation isn't just a nice gesture — it's essential emotional medicine that helps relationships heal and thrive. But more than that, it's a practice you can build — a new habit of truly noticing, acknowledging, and expressing gratitude in ways that land deeply with your partner.

You'll learn:

  • How contribution is the key to a fulfilling life — and why we need feedback in order to get that need fully met

  • Why expressing appreciation often feels vulnerable — and how to lean into that vulnerability for the sake of authentic connection

  • Practical tips for cultivating a daily appreciation practice that strengthens your bond

  • How Nonviolent Communication (NVC) guides us to give heartfelt, specific feedback that actually sticks. 

Whether you feel unseen or want to show your partner they matter, this episode offers tools and insights to help you build appreciation into your relationship as a powerful healing habit.

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Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples
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35: Do I Even Matter to You? How Appreciation Heals — and How to Make It Stick

35: Do I Even Matter to You? How Appreciation Heals — and How to Make It Stick

Ali Miller