#37: Breeda Miller - Conquer Crises with Compassion and Humor
Description
Is it ever right to deceive or mislead?
What happens when we become unexpectedly thrust into a radically new situation?
How do we cope with compassion fatigue?
These and other compelling questions are addressed when self-care expert Breeda Miller returns to join The Rabbi and the Shrink.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/breedamiller/
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1:00 An unplanned journey
The story of "Mrs. Kelly"
How do we cope with compassion fatigue?
We can’t help others if we don’t care for ourselves
Stories implant the lessons we need to survive and thrive
We can’t control what happens to us, only our responses
4:30 Response is the root of responsibility
The difference between reacting and responding
Looking at the bright side helps us cope with the darkness
6:30 Give yourself permission to not respond
Take a step back
Meet others where they are
Blessed are the flexible…
Balance humor against dignity -- no regrets
12:00 The rabbi who forgot his own lessons
We don’t cope well with deviations from the norm
Take responsibility for your responses
14:30 The ticket to heaven
Is it ever right to deceive or mislead?
A little creativity goes a long way
21:00 We can’t break out of the box if we think in binary terms
“Disbelieve everything I say; I’m telling the truth.”
“Did that really happen?”
Don’t let the truth get in the way of a good story -- what does that mean?
26:00 Our perception is the reality of our truth
If our intent is not to deceive, we let the story tell itself
The unreliability of memory
We have to hold ourselves accountable
33:00 Second to nun?
Mark Twain: If you tell the truth, you can have a terrible memory
34:30 The word of the day: perfectionism
Perfection is not achievable, so being a perfectionist is setting ourselves up for failure
Striving toward an unreachable goal may enable us to achieve our potential