In this episode of Mother Wisdom, I watch the pendulum swing between victimhood, radical responsibility, and the seductive (and harmful, in my opinion) idea that you were simply an “energetic match” for your birth experience.

Was it random? Was it cosmic? Was it preventable? Was it what you really wanted deep down in your subconscious?

These are the uncomfortable questions so many mothers, women, humans grapple with, especially when things don’t go as imagined. And especially when you’re on the internet in the alternative health, quantum blah blah blah, corners.

This episode is a meditation on making meaning from what has happened, rather than obsessing over what could have been. On taking responsibility for the choices you made, not claiming you’ve masterminded the entire universe around your subconscious.

I talk about the damage I perceive can come from telling women they “attracted” their birth experience, how spiritual bypassing hides behind personal growth language, and how to hold the complex truth that sometimes things just happen, without slipping into blame or victimhood, or on the other side, playing God in your own life.

In this conversation I explore:

* The illusion of control and the reality of chance

* The harm in “you manifested this” narratives around birth

* What radical responsibility actually means (hint: it’s not about controlling the uncontrollable)

* Acknowledging both randomness and deep intelligence in the unfolding of birth. And life. And mothering.

* Exploring the many threads that may influence birth: fascia, trauma, nutrition, ancestry, biomechanics. But perhaps most importantly, the humility of not knowing.

* How to take aligned responsibility without ego

* The mental gymnastics we do to avoid feeling what is or was (as I watched myself do when I was late the other day) and the invitation to come back to presence

* Turning difficult experiences into wisdom, not through spiritual bypassing, but through embodied reflection and integration

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