DiscoverThe Ultimate Health Podcast499: How to Use Boundaries to Reclaim Your Time, Energy & Relationships | Melissa Urban
499: How to Use Boundaries to Reclaim Your Time, Energy & Relationships | Melissa Urban

499: How to Use Boundaries to Reclaim Your Time, Energy & Relationships | Melissa Urban

Update: 2022-10-11


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Melissa Urban (IG: @melissau) is the co-founder and CEO of the Whole30 program, and a six-time New York Times bestselling author. She is the host of the Do the Thing podcast and is a prominent keynote speaker on boundaries, building community, health trends & entrepreneurship.

Today we’re discussing Melissa's brand new book, The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free.

Learning how to set and stick to your boundaries will improve your mental health, energy, productivity and create more fulfilling relationships. Stick around and learn how to become a boundary master.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Signs you need to set a boundary
  • How to categorize boundaries
  • A simple approach to start setting boundaries
  • Strategies to setting & holding workplace boundaries
  • A three-tiered approach to boundary scripts
  • Don’t over-explain your boundary
  • Navigating the “whys”
  • Common misconceptions about boundaries
  • Establishing a healthy workplace culture
  • The best boundaries are flexible
  • Should you communicate changes to a boundary?
  • The boundaries Melissa sets working from home
  • Why she rejects the hustle culture
  • Advice for starting an entrepreneurial journey
  • Deepen your accomplishments
  • Create more balance in your life
  • Mentors offer an insightful perspective
  • Setting boundaries was transformative for Melissa’s drug recovery
  • Are you willing to hold your boundary?
  • Setting & holding self-boundaries
  • Teaching kids the concept of healthy boundaries
  • It’s never too late to set boundaries
  • The three boundary mistakes people make
  • Don’t impose your boundary expectations on others
  • What is the golden rule in relationships?
  • Setting healthy boundaries in relationships
  • Ask yourself, “What do I need?”
  • The key to building self-confidence
  • Everyone can benefit from clear, kind communication
  • The freedom that comes from setting boundaries

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Related links:

Melissa Urban - The Book of Boundaries

Melissa Urban's website

Follow Melissa Urban on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter

Listen to Melissa (Hartwig) Urban previously on TUHP (episode #229)


Melissa Hartwig Urban, Dallas Hartwig - Whole30 (books)

Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban

Randi Zuckerberg - Pick Three (book)

Brené Brown - Dare to Lead (book)

Related episodes:

How to Get Unstuck & Take Control of Your Life | Jenna Kutcher (#487)

Psychotherapist Reveals How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Stop Getting Pushed Around | Terri Cole (#468)

Therapist Reveals the Secret to Healthy Relationships | Nedra Glover Tawwab (#429)

How Success Can Come From Simplifying the Most Important Activities in Your Life | Greg McKeown (#420)

235: Lori Harder – A Tribe Called Bliss • No Boundaries = Anxiety & Resentment • Stop Gossiping

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499: How to Use Boundaries to Reclaim Your Time, Energy & Relationships | Melissa Urban

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