Going through a breakup and don't know what to do with yourself? This episode is for you. Whether you're in shock, having a breakdown, or feeling completely detached, all reactions are normal. Instead of the typical breakup advice, I'm sharing 4 practical, actionable steps that will set you up for your next chapter - one that's better than before and intentionally focused on creating your best life.

What You'll Learn

• Why your breakup reaction is normal (and often learned from childhood)
• The 4 unconventional steps to take immediately after a breakup
• How to use this ending as a catalyst for building an amazing life
• Why healing isn't passive and requires intentional work
• How to shift from reactive mode to creative mode

The 4 Steps to Transform Your Breakup

1. Create Your Values List

• Find "values exercises" on Google (takes 5-10 minutes)
• Examples: integrity, loyalty, connection, authenticity, adventure
• Use your values as a compass for all major decisions
• Notice where you're expending energy that doesn't align with who you want to be

2. Complete a Life Wheel Exercise

• Rate 10 life areas on a scale of 1-10 (health, career, finances, relationships, spirituality, etc.)
• Identify which areas have been neglected while focusing on your relationship
• Get an honest assessment to rebuild intentionally
• Focus energy where it will create the most balance and fulfillment

3. Commit to Something Outside Your Comfort Zone

• Choose something that makes you nervous but excited
• Examples: learning to surf, guitar lessons, solo travel, art classes
• Build evidence that you can handle uncertainty and figure things out
• Expand your world instead of shrinking it after a breakup

4. Write Down Your Perfect Day

• Visualize from wake-up to sleep - be detailed
• No limitations based on current circumstances
• Your ex cannot be part of this picture
• Use it as a north star for decision-making
• Ask: "Does this move me closer to or further from my perfect day?"

Key Takeaways

• There's no "right" way to react to a breakup
• Your reaction is likely a coping pattern learned in childhood
• Healing requires intentional work, not just waiting for time to pass
• This breakup is giving you a clean slate and opportunity to rebuild consciously
• People who come out stronger use disruption as a chance to make conscious changes
• You get to choose what to keep and what to leave behind

Resources Mentioned

• Values Exercise: Search "find my values exercises" on Google
• Life Wheel Exercise: Search "life wheel exercise" on Google or book a consultation with Sylvia
• Personal Consultation: DM @sylviasuwan on Instagram for booking link

Connect with Sylvia

• Instagram: @sylviasuwan
• Book a Consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

Quote to Remember

"The people who come out of breakups stronger, happier, and more fulfilled are the ones who use the disruption as an opportunity to examine their lives and make conscious changes. They're the ones who refuse to just go back to how things were before."