DiscoverThe Art of Manliness#523: How to Keep a Happy Relationship Happy
#523: How to Keep a Happy Relationship Happy

#523: How to Keep a Happy Relationship Happy

Update: 2019-07-0824
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Most marriage and relationship advice books focus on solving problems. 

But my guests today argue that we shouldn't wait until problems arise in our relationship to work on strengthening it. Instead, they say, when times are good, we should think about how to keep that good, and act to make it even better. 

Their names are James Pawelski and Suzann Pileggi Pawelski, and they're husband and wife. James has a background in philosophy, and they both have backgrounds in psychology. They combined insights from both fields to write the book Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts. We begin our conversation discussing how most relationship advice falls short, the biggest myths people have about relationships, and the contrast between Plato's and Aristotle's approach to relationships. We then dig into the role emotions play in a relationship, particularly passion, and what we can do to continue to cultivate and experience positive emotions in a marriage even after being together for years. We then dig into how our character influences our relationships and how our relationships influence our character. James and Suzann share insights on how and why to focus on our strengths, help our partners develop their strengths, and even go on a "strengths date" together. We end our conversation talking about the power of appreciation in relationships.

Get the show notes at aom.is/happytogether.

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David DeLillo

The timing of this episode is impeccable. This opened my eyes to some of my own behaviors. And answered a lot of questions that I couldn't put into words. Thank you thank you thank you. Keep up the good work.

Jul 8th
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#523: How to Keep a Happy Relationship Happy

#523: How to Keep a Happy Relationship Happy