59 - Why Nagging Doesn't Work with Tilly Dillehay

Update: 2025-11-18

Description

In today’s episode of No Longer Nomads, host Josh Doyle talks with author and speaker Tilly Dillehay for an honest, deeply insightful conversation about marriage, conflict, technology, motherhood, gratitude, and the spiritual battles we face inside our homes.

Tilly, a pastor’s wife, homeschooling mom of four, author of My Dear Hemlock, and co-host of the Home Fires podcast, brings incredible wisdom shaped through years of writing, ministry, and real-life experience. Together, Josh and Tilly unpack topics like:

How to address conflict in marriage with wisdom and timing
Why relational capital matters—far more than we realize
Nagging, gratitude, and the subtle ways resentment grows in a home
The trap of comparison in the age of social media
Overcoming the addiction cycle of smartphones
How husbands and wives can rebuild emotional connection even after drifting apart
The supernatural influence a mother has on the emotional climate of her home
Surviving the young-kids phase the hardest parenting years
Practical habits that restore peace, joy, and intimacy

Whether you’re married, parenting little ones, or want to grow spiritually, this episode is a gold mine of practical truth, delivered with humility, humor, and compassion.

Stick around to the end, Tilly’s thoughts on gratitude and spiritual formation will bless you.

Chapters:

00:00:00 — Opening Question: Handling Conflict

00:14:00 — The Social Media Comparison Trap

00:21:00 — Fame, Image, and the “Better Life” Illusion

00:28:00 — Phone Addiction & Reclaiming Presence

00:35:00 — Living in God’s Time vs. Screen Time

00:42:00 — Invitation Over Criticism in Marriage

00:49:00 — Rebuilding Emotional Connection Through Prayer

00:56:00 — Forming New Spiritual Habits

01:03:00 — Resetting the Home When Overwhelmed

01:09:00 — Closing Thoughts & Where to Find the Book