DiscoverSave My Marriage Podcast6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)
6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)

6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)

Update: 2025-10-20
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“We thought we just needed to learn more… but the truth is, we had to unlearn.”

In this episode, we’re sharing the six patterns that nearly destroyed our marriage — and the ones that saved it when we finally let them go:

❌ Control ≠ Safety
❌ Criticism ≠ Motivation
❌ Vulnerability ≠ Weakness
❌ Marriage ≠ Competition
❌ Resentment ≠ Protection
❌ Withholding the Truth ≠ Keeping the Peace

These weren’t quick fixes. They were deeply ingrained stories — beliefs we inherited from childhood, conditioning, and survival — and they were silently pulling us apart.

But once we started unlearning them, everything shifted:
Trust grew where fear used to live.
Connection deepened where resentment once ruled.
And our love finally felt safe again.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying so hard but nothing is changing… this episode is for you.

Save it for the days you feel stuck.
Share it with someone who’s ready to try a different way.

Full episode: “6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)” is live now. Link in bio.

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6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)

6 Things We Had to Unlearn to Save Our Marriage (After 22 Years Together)

Aston and Adam Simmonds