DiscoverHope for Spouses#68: What Does the Bible Say About Separation After Sexual Betrayal?
#68: What Does the Bible Say About Separation After Sexual Betrayal?

#68: What Does the Bible Say About Separation After Sexual Betrayal?

Update: 2020-02-19


So your spouse has been unfaithful either through adultery or porn, and you just can’t seem to heal with them in the home. But you’re a Christian and everybody tells you that God hates separation.

In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim plunges deep into the Scriptures and address exactly how God feels about a betrayal separation. But because our culture (the West) is so different from the culture of the Bible (the East), we need to find our answers through an extensive, contextual study of the Bible.

To do that, Kim will talk about God’s view of women and marriage, how Jesus treated women, and what the New Testament says about marriage which is just one of our many one-another relationships. We’ll also talk about how to take a contextual view of the scriptures where we’ll learn how to be “silent” (and obedient) where the Bible speaks, and understand the freedom God gives us to speak (and take biblical action) where the Bible is silent.


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Scripture References and Links

• Misreading the Bible through Western Eyes:
• BEMA podcast –

CONTEXTUAL VIEW - what God infers, HIS purpose and intention for marriage
Ephesians 5
Hebrews 13:4
Gen 2-3
Song of Solomon (Songs)
1 Corinthians 7

1. ONE ANOTHER RELATIONSHIPS - God’s Standard for ALL our relationships in the Body (including marriage)
John 13:34-35 - They will know you are my disciples by how you love one another
Rom 12:10 - Be devoted to one another, honor one another above yourselves.
1 Corinthians 1:10 - Be perfectly united in mind and thought.
Galatians 5:13 - Serve one another in love
1 Thessalonians 5:11 – Encourage one another, build one another up
Hebrews 10:24 – Spur each other to love and good deeds
1 John 1:7 – Have fellowship as we walk in the light
1 John 4:11 – Have AGAPE love for one another
James 5:16 – Confess your sins to each other
1 Thessalonians 5:13 – Love at peace with each other
Colossians 3:9 – Do not lie to each other (Prov 12:22 - Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord)
Ephesians 5:21 – Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
[Ephesians 5:22 – Submitting to husband as to the Lord, contextually, God doesn’t condone pornography or adultery – Matthew 5:27-28]
Colossians 3:12-13 – Bear with one another
Matthew 6:14-15 - Forgive one another
1 Peter 4:8 – Love (agape) each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins

Complete List of One Another scriptures

Mt 5:37 , 2 Timothy 2:2 - Commanded to be trustworthy/keep our word/promises

Never commanded to trust in people.
Psalm 41:9 - David warned be careful who we trust.
John 2:24 - Jesus limited who he entrusted himself to
Mt 7:6 - told us to be careful to whom we entrust what is valuable to us.

Mary, his mother - John 2, 19:25-27
Peter’s Mother-in-Law – Matt 5:35-43
Widow of Nain – Luke 7:11-17
The Crippled Woman – Luke 13:10-17
Martha sister of Lazarus – John 11
Mary, sister of Lazarus, who anointed him - John 12:1-8
Women who supported him including Salome, Susanna and James’ Mother - Mark 15:40-41, Luke 8:2-3
Samaritan Woman - John 4:1-26,39-42
Bleeding Woman - Mark 5:25-34
Women at the cross/tomb - Joanna, Mary the wife of Cleopas and others – Luke 24:1-10
Sinful Woman - Luke 7:36-50
Woman Caught in Adultery - John 8:1-11
Women on Golgotha road - Lk 23:28
Widow Giving Her Offering – Mark 12:41-44
Syrophoencian Woman – Matthew 15:21-28
Mary Magdalen first person to see him risen - Mk 16:9

God defends the weak and fatherless (Ps 82:3)
The Lord will protect the needy them from those who malign them (Psalm 12:5)
Rescues and delivers the weak and the needy from the wicked (Psalm 82:3-4).
We take refuge in the shadow of God’s “wings” until the disaster passes (Psalm 57:1)
God protects us from the violent, who scheme against us (Psalm 140:4)
God has a shelter/fortress/refuge where we are safe and can rest (Psalm 90:1-4).

1 Cor 6:12-13, 10:23 – everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial or constructive.
Philippians 1:9-10 – discern what is best

2 Peter 1:3 – the Scriptures give us everything we need for life and godliness.

Take a contextual View of Sexual Purity in Marriage
Eph 5:3-7
2 Tim 3:1-11
1 Peter 3:1-6
1 Cor 7:1-5

2 Peter 3:8 - God’s timetable
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 - there is a time for everything

Luke 11:24-26 – Fill the vacuum of your mind and life with God’s Word or the world will fill it.

Romans 12:2 - Transforming our mind takes deliberate action
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#68: What Does the Bible Say About Separation After Sexual Betrayal?

#68: What Does the Bible Say About Separation After Sexual Betrayal?