When Aaliyah released “One In A Million” in 1996, it didn’t sound like anything else. It was sleek, futuristic, and sensual without ever being loud about it.

Timbaland’s beats hit like heartbeats, Missy’s pen told a love story that felt new, and Aaliyah’s voice — soft, assured, untouchable — redefined what feminine power could sound like.

Back then, it was the soundtrack to every teenage crush and quiet moment in your bedroom mirror.

But now, as a 40-something woman, it feels like something deeper — a reflection on rarity, self-worth, and how we learn to hold our power without apology.

In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, I unpack what “One In A Million” taught us about self-possession, identity, and the art of being wanted without needing to perform.

What we explore:

• How Aaliyah shifted the sound and style of R&B forever

• The power of subtlety and why she never had to raise her voice to command attention

• What it meant to see a young Black woman embody quiet confidence in the 90s

• Listening to “One In A Million” now — how grown-woman reflection reframes love, trust, and self-worth

• How to embrace your own rarity without shrinking or explaining it

If you’ve ever been told you were “too much” or “not enough,” this song — and this conversation — will remind you that you’re already one in a million.