We explore how avoidance, disguised as politeness, slowly erodes trust — and how courageous conversations can actually strengthen relationships and performance. Katherine breaks down what “calling out the elephant” looks like in practice: reading the emotional landscape, choosing timing over impulse, and speaking truth without weaponizing it.

From emotional intelligence to communication frameworks, we examine how leaders can replace fear with curiosity — and transform tension into alignment.

TL;DR

* Avoidance kills trust faster than conflict ever will.

* Clarity + compassion = productive honesty.

* Name the issue early — silence grows resentment.

* True kindness includes telling the truth.

* Courageous dialogue builds stronger, safer teams.

Memorable lines

* “Kindness without honesty is just avoidance in disguise.”

* “The longer you avoid the elephant, the bigger it gets.”

* “When you name what’s real, people finally exhale.”

* “Courage isn’t about comfort — it’s about connection.”

Guest:

Katherine Lazaruk — Founder, LZRK Consulting | Executive Coach & Keynote Speaker LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherinelazaruk/

Website: https://lzrkconsulting.com/

Why it matters

Every organization has its unspoken truths — unaddressed conflicts, performance gaps, or cultural tension. Leaders who learn to name those realities, with empathy and clarity, create workplaces where honesty isn’t feared but valued. The courage to speak the unsaid is what separates management from leadership.

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