Anaïs Nin - We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.
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Welcome to the Daily Quote – a podcast designed to kickstart your day in a positive way. I'm your host, Andrew McGivern, for September 19th.Today is National Overthinkers Day, and if you're already wondering whether you qualify as an overthinker, you probably do. If you're wondering whether wondering about whether you're an overthinker means you're overthinking... well, welcome to the club.This holiday exists to shine a light on something millions of us struggle with – the tendency to analyze, re-analyze, and then analyze our analysis until we're completely paralyzed by our own thoughts. It's that mental loop where we replay conversations, second-guess decisions, and imagine seventeen different scenarios for every simple situation.Overthinking isn't inherently bad – it shows we care, that we're thoughtful people who want to make good decisions. But like many good traits, it becomes problematic when taken to extremes. National Overthinkers Day is both a gentle acknowledgment of this very human tendency and a reminder that sometimes the best action is to stop thinking and just act.Today's quote comes from writer Anaïs Nin, who said:"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are."Nin's observation gets right to the heart of why we overthink. When we're caught in that mental spiral, we're not really analyzing the situation anymore – we're analyzing our own fears, insecurities, and past experiences projected onto the present moment.Think about the last time you overthought something. Maybe it was a text you sent that didn't get an immediate response, or a comment someone made that you kept dissecting. In those moments, you weren't seeing the situation clearly – you were seeing it through the lens of your own anxieties and assumptions.The person who didn't text back immediately might have been in a meeting. The comment that seemed loaded with meaning might have been completely innocent. But our overthinking brain takes these neutral situations and colors them with our own internal state.Nin understood that true clarity comes not from thinking harder, but from recognizing how our own perspective shapes everything we see. The antidote to overthinking isn't more analysis – it's self-awareness about how our thoughts create our reality.I learned this lesson the hard way a few years ago. I sent what I thought was a friendly email to a colleague, and when she didn't respond for two days, I spiraled into full overthinking mode. I analyzed every word I'd written, convinced I'd somehow offended her. I imagined scenarios where she was complaining to our boss, planning to avoid me, maybe even looking for a new job because of my terrible email.When she finally responded with a cheerful "Thanks! Sorry for the delay – I was out sick," I realized I'd spent two days torturing myself over absolutely nothing. The delay had nothing to do with me or my email. I was seeing the situation through my own lens of self-doubt and anxiety, not as it actually was.That experience taught me to pause when I feel the overthinking spiral starting and ask myself: "Am I seeing this situation, or am I seeing my fears about this situation?"As you navigate your Thursday, pay attention to moments when your mind starts spinning in that familiar overthinking pattern. When you catch yourself there, remember Nin's wisdom – you might not be seeing the situation clearly.Try this: when you notice yourself overthinking, take a step back and ask, "What would this look like if I weren't worried about it?" or "How might someone else see this situation?" Sometimes the simplest explanation is the right one, and the complexity is all in our heads.Give yourself permission to act on incomplete information sometimes. Not every decision needs to be perfect, and not every situation needs to be fully analyzed to death.