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Are You “Doing the Work” or Just Performing It? with Therapist Rebecca Marcus

Are You “Doing the Work” or Just Performing It? with Therapist Rebecca Marcus

Update: 2025-11-18
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Therapist Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, is back to talk about what it actually means to “do the work” in your love life. We unpack why awareness alone isn’t enough to break old patterns, how to tell the difference between real growth and just performing self-improvement, what to do if you’re doing everything “right” but still feel lonely, and whether it’s possible to over-communicate to the point it kills the spark. Rebecca also shares how she met her husband through a matchmaking platform and the advice she got back when she was looking for love. Follow Rebecca on Instagram @rm.psychotherapy and visit rmpsychotherapy.com if you're interested in working with Rebecca or joining one of her dating and breakup groups!

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Are You “Doing the Work” or Just Performing It? with Therapist Rebecca Marcus

Are You “Doing the Work” or Just Performing It? with Therapist Rebecca Marcus