What happens when the usual parenting advice feels zero-percent applicable to our own situation? The first step is to let go of any "second arrow" self-blame that that is the case. The second step is to chart our own paths.

Amy and Margaret discuss:

• What types of kids may not benefit from the one-size-fits-all parenting advice


• Why the concept of default parenting advice is harmful


• Why kids "irritating behaviors" are signs that they are growing and learning appropriately

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

• Sarah Lyons for Western NY Family Magazine: "One Size Doesn't Fit All"
  


• Our episode "When Your Kid Doesn't Fit the Mold"
  


• Jeanie Lerche Davis for WebMD: 10 Commandments of Good Parenting
  


• Dana Bosu: How to Cope When Your Child is Different
  


• Andrew Solomon: Far From the Tree
  


• Ross Greene: The Explosive Child
  


• Rita Eichenstein: Not What I Expected
  


• Deborah Reber: Differently Wired
  

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