Boomerang of Blame: Why Narcissistic People Make It All Your Fault
"It's crazy-making! No matter how wrong s/he is, it's always my fault!"
Have you ever said that about a parent, partner, ex, friend, sibling, co-worker?
Infuriating! Frustrating! Endless! It has to stop. And, unfortunately, that's up to you. A #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult person with narcissistic, anti-social, borderline or histrionic behaviors--will never entertain the remote possibility that s/he has made a mistake, or is wrong. Right? Nasty!
#Hijackals have been damaged in ways that cause them to be hyper-vigilant, always on the look out to defend themselves against blame. Even when there is nothing to guard themselves against, they make up things. Have you experienced this? If you're with a #Hijackal you certain will know what I'm talking about!
Blame becomes a pre-occupation for Hijackals. Their immediate response is to reject it or deflect it. That means it's coming back your way. Hence, the Boomerang of Blame.
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You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.
You will find yourself blamed for things that couldn't possible be your fault. You'll be told how you feel, and it will be completely wrong. You'll be told what you think, and no one every asked you. Sound familiar? That's how #Hijackals roll.
No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!
Today's episode offers the ONE BIG STRATEGY you need to employ first to repel the Boomerang of Blame. Yes, I know. It's not fair that you have to be the one who employs all the strategies to make the relationship bearable. But, you need to be safe, and that's up to you to do everything you can to make happen.
Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why #Hijackal must blame and find fault
- Why that blame is all coming your way
- Destructive patterns you can notice right now, and move away from
- One BIG STRATEGY to do right away to change things positively...if possible.
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Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,
The Relationship Help Doctor
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