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Curious about what it really takes to date in the non-monogamous world? In this episode, I’m joined by Shannon Whaley, an anti-hustle business coach and newly-out polyamorous explorer, as we dive into the challenges and breakthroughs of non-monogamous dating. Together, we break down the nuances of setting clear boundaries, asking the tough but essential questions, and finding self-worth after surviving toxic relationships.

Shannon opens up about her journey and how embracing both non-monogamy and BDSM practices has transformed her approach to building healthy, authentic connections. Whether you’re navigating jealousy, learning to communicate needs, or just starting to explore ethical non-monogamy, Shannon’s insights offer a fresh and empowering take on healing, intimacy, and self-discovery.

Here's what you'll discover in this episode:

• How to set and maintain boundaries in non-monogamous relationships
• The importance of direct communication and asking tough questions
• Navigating the complexities of dating while living abroad
• The role of BDSM checklists in fostering trust and clear boundaries
• Practical tools for reclaiming your power and creating meaningful connections

About Shannon Whaley:

Shannon is an anti-hustle business coach living in Italy with her two bilingual cats. She's been coaching since 2015, helping service providers build sustainable online businesses. Now, she's navigating her own journey in polyamory and non-monogamy, sharing her insights and challenges along the way. www.shannonwhaley.com

Whether you're new to non-monogamous dating or looking to refine your approach, this episode offers a refreshingly honest look at the realities of exploring relationships beyond traditional boundaries. Join us for a conversation that might just change the way you think about connection, communication, and personal growth in the world of ethical non-monogamy.

"Healing and growth are not only possible, they're powerful. Reclaiming your self-worth after toxic experiences is within reach."

Don't forget to rate and review the podcast if you enjoy these conversations. It helps us reach more people and keeps the dialogue open – which is super important in the world of non-monogamous relationships!

00:00:00 Introducing Non-Monogamous Dating and Healing After Toxic Relationships

00:02:27 Shannon's Journey into Non-Monogamy and Self-Discovery

00:06:07 Setting Boundaries and Communicating Effectively

00:23:54 Navigating Non-Monogamous Dating and Setting Boundaries

00:28:00 Navigating Non-Monogamy in a Different Culture

00:54:35 BDSM and Trust-Building in Relationships

00:56:43 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Creating Authentic Connections

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