When trust is broken, everything changes. The person who once felt like your safest place can suddenly feel like a stranger, and finding your way back can feel impossible.

In this episode, I’m joined by Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, trained relationship specialists, speakers, and authors of Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. After a devastating betrayal early in their marriage, they did the hard, courageous work of rebuilding honesty, safety, and connection - not just for themselves, but now for the couples they help heal.

We talk about what partner betrayal trauma really looks like, why “just move on” never works, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after betrayal. From understanding trauma’s impact on your nervous system to creating emotional safety and vulnerability again, this is an honest look at how love can truly recover and grow stronger on the other side.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

01:30 Meet Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith

05:36 The Hidden Addiction and the Moment of Truth

16:20 Beginning the Recovery Journey

27:00 The Reality of Partner Betrayal Trauma

33:20 Why “Just Move On” Doesn’t Work

43:40 How Trauma Healing Actually Happens

49:20 The Blueprint for Rebuilding Trust

58:00 Finding Purpose and True Intimacy

01:00:45 Where to Find Support and Resources

What would it mean to feel safe again in your body, in your relationship, or even within yourself? How do we begin to trust when trust has been broken? And if you’re the one who caused harm, how do you face that truth with compassion and courage instead of shame?

If this conversation stirs something in you… maybe memories, questions, or a quiet hope that healing is possible… I have a free resource that can help you take the next step. My Communication That Connects Masterclass was designed to help you move beyond pain and misunderstanding, and start building the kind of emotional safety that real repair depends on. 

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xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self