This episode is a reassuring reminder that anger isn’t a parenting failure - it’s a message! In this coaches’ couch episode, Jenny and Dayna sit down with Parent Coach Kristin Ward to unpack what might be going on beneath those fiery ‘red-brain’ moments that sometimes sneak up on us parents.

We talk about why anger shows up, why some of us meet it with shame or self-condemnation, and how understanding its purpose can completely change the way we respond. 

Using the ‘anger iceberg’ metaphor as our guide, we look beneath the surface at the unmet needs that often drive big reactions. We also share practical strategies for navigating moments of anger and rage, including: 

• Preventing the blow-up by acting early, using firm boundaries before your tank hits empty 


• The power of a ‘pause’ when emotions are high. Using, ‘We’ll talk about this later’ as a circuit breaker rather than a shutdown. 


• Rupture and repair and strengthening connection after tricky moments. 

Keen for more episodes that touch on the topic of anger in parenting? 

🎧 Kanoa Lloyd: Stretch and grow (your kids and yourself!) 

https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/kanoa-lloyd-stretch-and-grow-your-kids-and-yourself/id1710061323?i=1000674632767 

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