Coercive Control: Sneaky, Subtle & Sadistic Patterns of Domination
Have you heard the term, coercive control? You may not have as it's just slowly coming to awareness. And, it is SO important that it does!
Coercive control is life-sucking!
That's why I've chosen to give you an understanding of the many aspects of coercive control in today's episode. Evan Stark, PhD, coined the term
"coercive control" and he defines it this way,
"...an ongoing pattern of domination by which male abusive partners primarily interweave repeated physical and sexual violence with intimidation, sexual degradation, isolation, and control."
Does any of that sound like something that has happened to you? He writes about men because he says that coercive control is a 'gendered' issue, He writes about this in his paper, Re-Presenting Battered Women: Coercive Control and the Defense of Liberty.
"The primary outcome of coercive control is a condition of entrapment that can be hostage-like in the harms it inflicts on dignity, liberty, autonomy, and personhood as well as to physical and psychological integrity."
Does this sound familiar in any way to you? Have you felt degraded, diminished, discounted, and devalued by a toxic partner, one of those folks I call #Hijackals®?
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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- What is coercive control?
- Why it is a 'gendered' issue?
- Why law enforcement as too often failed to look at the repeating patterns of non-physical abuse.
- How intimidation fits into coercive abuse.
- Why you need to really understand how destructive this and how it breaks you down over time
- Why documenting the things that are said, done, and left undone in the relationship is SO important
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