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EP 605: Disorganized Attachment Explained: Nervous System Chaos, Identity Fragmentation & Healing (Attachment Style SOS Series – Part 3)

EP 605: Disorganized Attachment Explained: Nervous System Chaos, Identity Fragmentation & Healing (Attachment Style SOS Series – Part 3)

Update: 2025-12-01
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Welcome back to the Attachment Style SOS Series! In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into disorganized attachment. The style that feels like craving closeness one moment and wanting to run for the hills the next. If relationships feel like emotional whiplash, if you’ve ever felt “too much,” “too complicated,” or like you become a different person when you’re triggered… this episode will help you understand why. As someone who lived this pattern for over a decade, this one is incredibly close to my heart.

Inside the episode, we cover:

  • What disorganized attachment actually feels like, why it shows up as emotional chaos, and the science behind your attachment system and survival system firing at the same time
  • Identity fragmentation and “shape-shifting”, why you lose yourself in relationships, and how to rebuild a cohesive, secure identity from the inside out
  • Cultural misunderstandings & the ADHD link, how society mislabels this style and why emotional regulation challenges feed into ADHD (and vice versa)

If you’re listening and thinking, “Wow… this is me,” or “This explains so much about someone I love,” please know this: you are not broken. Your nervous system adapted to chaos—and that means you can absolutely learn safety and become securely attached.

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Now is the moment.

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EP 605: Disorganized Attachment Explained: Nervous System Chaos, Identity Fragmentation & Healing (Attachment Style SOS Series – Part 3)

EP 605: Disorganized Attachment Explained: Nervous System Chaos, Identity Fragmentation & Healing (Attachment Style SOS Series – Part 3)