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EP45 - Boundaries In Relationships

EP45 - Boundaries In Relationships

Update: 2018-03-04
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Our final part of our two-part series with Vulnerable podcast we discussed having boundaries in relationships.

How do our boundaries change in relationships as we get older?
How do we know what our boundaries are?
How do we effectively communicate our boundaries to our partners?
It was a very powerful conversation and if you want to hear the full episode use one of the links below:-

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EP43 - I wish I hadn't worked so hard
Isn't it interesting that one of the regrets of the dying was wishing they never worked as hard as they did?Sometimes the one thing we tend to overlook is the importance of time and how we use it.Time is the one assets that we can not get back once it is gone, so it's important we learn how to best use our time on a day to day basis.One thing to highlight is that we often spend a majority of time at work. Yet again highlight the importance of making the most of our free time to spend with friends and family.So how do we avoid working hard and work smart?It's necessary that we learn how to work smarter rather than harder, hard work cannot truly be avoided but you can arm and prepare yourself to work smarter:-If there is something you can outsource then leverage the benefits of the internet, there are a vast number of platforms which you can use to find freelancers.Review your current methods of work and identify areas that you can improve on, search far and wide whether that's a Google Search, investing in books or going on a course to aid you.Writing down your tasks, spending 5 minutes to plan your day can be the difference between working hard and working smart.Armed with your todo list you can prioritise tasks, which will help you understand where to spend your energyLimit your distractions by putting your phone on do not disturb or put it into Black and white mode, by avoiding distractions you should free up more time in your day.Questions always help with every situation so consider these:-Ask yourself - "What really matters in life?" - when working hard ask yourself is there something more important that you are ignoring.If you had 2 hours more a day what would you do? - If it screams out to spend more time with family then make a conscious decision to improve on those relationsWhat 3 things do I need to complete today? Prioritising helps you work on what really importantDo you have any other suggestions for working smarter?Let us know by dropping a message to info@tagmeinpodcast.co.uk or a tweet @tagmeinpodcast Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple PodcastYoutube#tagmeinpodcast
EP41 - I wish i had stayed in touch with my friends
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friendsIt's interesting to know that one of the common regrets of the dying is not realising the full benefits of old friendships.It's only up to their dying weeks do some come to the realisation and by then it is difficult to track them down.As individuals we often get ourselves caught up in our own lives and over time we let our friendships fade over the years.Have you been guilty of this?Naturally growing apart, lackof effort, or Distancing yourself?Some friendship naturally grow apart over time, and that is ok - we often grow at different times and some friendship are for a season. Some friendship have come to an end by choice may be due to a disagreement or a realisation and sometimes years later we reflect and feel we could have reacted differently.Some friendship have broken down due to a lack of effort.If you are reflecting on some friendship it is good to notice the causes to help you build and improve them.Showing AppreciationShowing your friends your appreciation to them goes a long way, whether it would be as simple as writing a card or a letter to them, or taking them out for an appreciation meal.We sometimes overlook the things that matter in life, and the best thing to do is take time out and reflect deeply on your relationships.TipsWork on communicationAsk questions like "What can I change to improve this friendship"Work out and understand each other - one of the biggest causes of conflict is misunderstanding and expectationsFrequency, make a commitment to speak, see each other on a regular basisFind events that you share common interestsMore Informationhttp://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/9049120/Losing-touch-with-friends-most-common-deathbed-regret.htmlhttps://www.linkedin.com/pulse/i-wish-had-stayed-touch-my-friends-sharnee-bennett/https://www.bhavinionline.com/tag/regret-i-wish-i-had-stayed-in-touch-with-my-friends/https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dyingDon’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple PodcastYoutube#tagmeinpodcast
EP39 -Being true to yourself and not others expectations
Being true to yourself and not others expectationsBelieve it or not, the most common regrets the dying have is not Being True to yourself and leaving to other peoples expectations.Are you surprised?Think about your past especially when you was in secondary/high school and all you cared about is fitting in; although puberty is a difficult moment we do have people around us placing expectation on us - like what is cool and what isn'tOne of the biggest expectations is usually from those closest to us - Family. Depending on your upbringing your parents may have said or visioned for you to be either a lawyer or doctor.Unknowingly these expectations could have a negative impact on our growth and development, even more worrying some may later resent their partners in the future.Go with that gut feeling!Often in life, we are faced with moments of decisions such as attending a friends party. Everyone is going and are hyped up for it but deep down you don't want to go.Your insides are screaming not to go, but you are worried people will label you as "boring". What do you do? If you go you will be fronting, expending unnecessary energy and waiting for the first opportunity to go home.ORDo you be true to yourself and have the courage to speak how you feel, "I'm not feeling it to be honest - it's a no from me. But have fun".Although difficult you aren't putting yourself in a situation you don't want to be in. Benefits of being true to yourselfYou are respecting yourself by being trueYou aren't using energy trying to maintain a personaYou will be happier for itHow to be true to yourself?We shared a few of our experiences that have helped:-Learn that you can't please everyoneLearn to be selfish at times for your own benefitUnderstand you have one life so make the most out of itSeek internal happiness - check out our previous episode on self-love Form a protective barrier from external voices and expectationsTake time out to reflectAsk yourself questions, why am I doing this, who am I doing this for?Remember you are the one that is walking around with your body for 24 hours, 7 days a week - do what is best for yourself.More Informationhttps://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3617/The-Importance-of-Being-True-to-Yourself.htmlhttps://www.huffingtonpost.com/michael-feeley/what-does-it-mean-to-be-t_1_b_8033654.htmlhttps://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3617/The-Importance-of-Being-True-to-Yourself.htmlhttps://www.essentiallifeskills.net/betruetoyourself.htmlhttps://tinybuddha.com/blog/dare-to-live-10-unconventional-ways-to-be-true-to-yourself/Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple PodcastYoutube#tagmeinpodcast
EP37 -Reflecting on your year
Reflecting on your yearAs the year comes to an end a thing we all seem to do is Reflecting; we often spend this time of the year reflecting on the 12 months events and we begin to set a tone for the next year.Have you ever been in a room where someone has asked: "what's your new year resolution going to be?"So 2017 is over, what now?Are you a person who declares to the world "New Year, New Me",  what about sending a message to all your contact via WhatsApp about the changes 2018 will bring.Now it is important to understand that not all changes will occur straight away, and changes that time to kick in.Theme of the yearDo you recap on the year and give it a theme? It's great to look at each year and add a theme. For example, if the biggest highlight of the year was strengthening relationships then you should call this year the year of relationship building.Questions are always the best way to reflect.Exploring starts by asking question, so take the time to sit down and ask yourself some questions like:-What did I like about this year?What did I not Like? What do I need to do to change itHow am I doing?What has been your biggest win?What has been your biggest low?What one event, big or small, are you going to tell your grandchildren about?If you had to describe your 2017 in 3 words, what would they be?What new things did you discover about yourself?What was your favourite place that you visited?Other Methods of reflectingUsing a vision board helps with reflecting, the visual representation of your goals can help you understand where you are on your journey.The most effective form is using a journal which has documented your every move over a period of time, you can easily pinpoint your wins and losses, your mistakes and your lessons.Quarter LivingRather than waiting for 12 months to reflect, perhaps try to break them down into quarters. Quarters are more manageable and make it easier to reflect and set the theme for the quarter.Just don't go overboard and state the predicted growth in Q1 will be 190%.Don't forget gratitudeWe often reflect on the things that went good and bad but sometimes the simplest things get ignored, just taking time out to realise what you have is important.Has your character changed?Shockingly over a 12 month period you characteristic can change, start your year off with a VIA Survey and reflect on it year on year.Tips for making 2018 greatSharing your goals with others helps a long way, perhaps use the start of the year wave to form some accountability partners where you check up on each other every 4 weeks to see how you are progressing.Perhaps keep a journal and try and document the next 365 days/52 weeks.Remember you can't achieve the world in 12 monthsIt's good to reflect on the year but don't be so hard on yourself if you don't meet all your goals, try and reflect on what you have learnt, and how much you have changed as an individual.More Informationhttps://greatist.com/live/reflect-on-your-yearhttp://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/20-questions-to-help-you-reflect-the-past-year.htmlhttps://anuschkarees.com/blog/2014/12/16/your-year-in-review-50-questions-to-help-you-reflect-appreciate-and-get-excited-for-2015Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple PodcastYoutube#tagmeinpodcast
EP33 - Navigating The Office Environment
So you enter the professional world and now you need to learn how to navigate the work office environment and how to play in the office politics.We shared our lessons on navigating the work office environment and looked back at how we felt when we first start.Is it faking it or adapting?We questioned whether putting on our professional persona was us faking it or us adapting to our environment. Obviously, we can't do some of our home comforts in the workplace such as maybe farting or burping - I guess things you wouldn't do in public.But one of the big difference is the way you communicate - the language you use whilst in the workplace is different to how you talk when you are at home.You will rather than saying "What's up" you'll probably say "Hey, how are you doing?"This communication extends to way you communicate digitally via email and instant messaging, as employees we are sometimes aware that our communication is monitored.Show up?It's important that you approach work in a professional manner, you are paid to complete your job and as a result, you should take being on time seriously.Being early speaks volumes, even if it's to meeting or deadlines.What also goes a long way is being socially active, by attending the work social - even the ones you don't enjoy you have the opportunity to build and form new relationships. From these relationships, you can utilise to work your way in the office but also it may present opportunities.Admittedly the social outings do not appeal to everyone but it holds more weight attending than not. We have all heard the line "it's not what you know, it's who you know!"Looking the part?Your images go a long way in the work environment, it gives people a representation of you even before speaking to you.Now some of the office dress codes are excessive such as the way your hair is cut or if you are a female you having to wear heelsShine brighter than othersNow the work environment is a competitive space and you have to be on your toes. Don't allow yourself to get comfortable and continue to strive for the stars.Emailing TipsWe both spoke about using emails to our advantage including sending them before and after work to show that you are going above and beyond.Also, the frequency of checking your email is important, try and check them 3 times a day. Morning (9 am), Afternoon (1 pm) and Evening (3 pm).What you may be interested in is setting up rules on your mailbox:-Read FolderThis folder is for emails you need read when the time is rightCCThis folder once configured will send all those emails you have been CC'd inDeath RowThis folder is used for emails that you aren't sure if you should delete just yet.EvidenceThis folder is important especially when it comes to appraisal time, you will have all your evidence stocked up.Play the gameNavigating the office is a game, you need to know the objective and requirements of your role and ensure you fulfil it.Even when going to an interview try and do some research behind your interviewer, find out their interest and use that knowledge to your advantage.The Office PoliticsOften people talk in the office and you have to make the decision to either join in or stay on the outside. Naturally, as human, we love to talk but it doesn't have to be negative.It's often forgotten in the work environment that we are all human, be friendly in the office and don't forget to smile you never know what sort of opportunities or connections could be made.Another side of dealing with the office is handling or identity problems, with these problems some people run to their managers but it's important you can provide some solutions.TAKE CREDITJump and shout about your successes, refrain from saying "we" when it was actually you. Learn to say "I" sometimes.#tagmeinpodcast
EP31 - Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset
EP31 - Growth Mindset vs Fixed MindsetIn this episode, Anton and Ola discuss the difference in the growth mindset and fixed mindset.It was only a couple of weeks ago Ola mentioned the difference after coming across Carol Dweck research and as a result clarity was made in understanding people who are settled in life and those who want to do and be more.Firstly what is a mindset?A mindset is the way we view the world and ourselves often shaped by our childhood experience.It is interesting to know that our experiences shape us into the adults that we are today. Although the above may be true we all have the power to learn, adapt and change our behaviour and mindset.So what's this Growth vs Fixed Mindset thing?It's a term first coined by Carol Dweck who established a difference in mindset and how children mindset is shaped by experiences and interaction with adultsShe stated that the language spoken to a youngster is important, rather than discouraging them we should look at changing our terminology. For example, if a child fails at something use the term "No Yet" and contribute their failures to them not being ready right now.It easy to understand how childhood experience can manifest into adult life, and why sometimes avoid difficult situations to avoid being in difficult situations.So are you going to have a race with Usain Bolt?Yes - I'm willing to take the L and learn from the experience.orNah I know I won't win so what's the point!What mindset are you?Are you a Fixed mindset?It is believed that a fixed mindset is an individual who believes their characteristic and skills are innate and fixed.A person who believes they are a finished product and nothing can be changed, they are often risk-averse and don't take on criticism from others.Are you a Growth Mindset?You are a believer in learning and trying new things, you understand experience is what shapes you and you will take an L often.Perhaps we can have a mixture of the two.For example, Ola is mostly a growth mindset person but there are moments when he will revert to his fixed mindset. He explains this as he talks about a recent job opportunity that he decided not to apply.What can we do to improve?Have a willingness to learnAllow yourself to be teachableTake your opportunitiesBe open to criticism and don't shut them downSelf-aware - Question yourself - "why am I behaving this way?"Believe in yourselfLook around you and identify people have achievedLearn how to turn your failures into lessonsGrowth is like a plant, it starts off as a small seed but if you nature it well it will grow. Allow yourself to grow from a plant into a forest.More Information:https://www.mindsetonline.com/testyourmindset/step1.phphttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUWn_TJTrnUhttps://www.brainpickings.org/2014/01/29/carol-dweck-mindset/https://www.edweek.org/ew/articles/2015/09/23/carol-dweck-revisits-the-growth-mindset.htmlhttps://hbr.org/2016/01/what-having-a-growth-mindset-actually-meansDon’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple Podcast#tagmeinpodcast
EP29 - Your Network is your net worth!
EP29 - Your Network is your net worth!In true Tag Me In Podcast fashion how Ola conquered his fears of public speaking as mentioned on EP10 - Public Speaking or DieJoin Anton and Ola as they discuss the events of Toast2Young London networking event, where they hosted (for the first time) with some amazing panellists who shared their current levels of success, as well as their trials and tribulations.They also discuss the power and importance of one's network and circle. They say your network is your net worth, and that couldn’t be truer!The panellist included:-Mariam Mola - http://mentormatcher.co.uk/Mariam is an entrepreneur, author and founder of Europe’s leading female mentoring initiative, Mentor MatcHER. Mariam founded Mentor MatcHER after giving birth to her daughter in prison and seeing the lack of support available to women in business and the workplace.On top of this, they also go into networking do’s and don’ts, the importance of going in with a giving mindset, as oppose to just wanting to take from others.Solomon Smith & Mohamed Hashi - http://brixtonsoupkitchen.org/Brixton Soup Kitchen, founded in January 2013, when Solomon Smith and Mohamed Hashi, Lambeth youth workers and lifelong Brixtonians realised there was a desperate need for such an organisation. The Brixton Soup Kitchen is currently open four days a week and offers so much more than hot food and drinks; they provide CV workshops, job guidance and advice on housing and benefits.Jamelia DonaldsonWhen 26-year old, London born Jamelia Donaldson told naturalists across the UK, “The hunt is over”, she wasn’t joking. The founder of Treasure Tress, has been able to draw on her personal experiences and knowledge to provide an impeccable hair care service which equips young girls and women across the world with quality products and tools to care for their natural hair.Moses Adeyemi - http://silverlineproject.co.uk/Founder of Silverline Project, motivational speaker, and coach, Moses turned his life around after a troubled youth and time in prison. He soon realised that in order to change his life around he needed to develop discipline and focus, and upon achieving this, is now sharing his journey and knowledge to help others bring lasting change to their lives.They all give amazing insight into their journies highlighting the network formed along the way, challenges faced, books that helped shaped who they are, mistakes made and the importance of naturing your relationships.What our network has done for us?Mohamed of Brixton soup kitchen said having a network and the right individuals can help you accelerate to your destination and this statement is tr with e.Along our journeys we have made some excellent contact which has excelled our development and growth, it is important to build new connections whether it career related or business.Networking doesn't have to be all about business, it could be about forming new relationship and friendship.Here are some of our tips:-Speak to as many people - You have a fixed amount of time to make contact with the people around try and find a balance between being a serial networker and forming meaningful connectionsBuild connection first - Don't hand your business card to everyone you come across, try and build a rapport with the person you are talking to. Why are you there? - Establish the reason you have attended the event, what are you hoping to get out of the event.Be confidence - No magic potion here but take a deep breath and ground yourself, adopt the superman power pose to give the image of confidence.Get their early - To avoid anxiety and feeling overwhelmed head to the venue early, smaller crowds will make things easier for youTwo or Three people in a group - Tackle small group as opposed to large one, it just makes it easier to make a connection.https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcast#tagmeinpodcast
EP25 - Catch me outside
EP25 - Catch me outsideIn this episode, we discuss the joys of travelling outdoors and the benefits of reflecting and appreciating the beauty of nature.We are joined by Pete a landscape photographer who has used his passion to aid him in his own personal development.He has also started to write about his experience which can be found hereGetting outdoors offers a form of escapism, sometimes we need to get away from the hustle and bustle of life.We share some of our stories and reflect on the moment, we discover that all memories have a back story to it.So why should you head outdoors:-Combat Vitamin D deficiencyScience tells us there are numerous other benefits to being outdoors. British Dietetic Association (BDA) guidelines state that standing in direct sunlight two or three times a week for at least 15 minutes will give you the fix of vitamin D you need for optimum bone and muscle health.Boost your moodIt’s getting darker quicker and we need all the bright light we can get, getting bright light coming through the eyes boosts the secretion of serotonin, while UV rays on the skin stimulates endorphins.All of this contributes to an improvement in mood.”Fight DepressionA report by the charity Mind, ecotherapy - where sufferers engage in activities such as gardening and conservation work - has been recognised as an effective treatment for depression. Their survey of 12,000 people, found that 69% experienced significant increases in wellbeing and 76% had mood improvements.Explore something newOvercome challengesPeteographyThere are few places to check out if you are living in the UK, you don’t really have an excuse not to do it:-https://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/croft-castle-and-parkland/lists/get-outdoors-and-explore-the-parklandhttp://www.telegraph.co.uk/health-fitness/body/have-got-nature-deficit-disorder-ditch-gym-time-get-outdoors/http://www.yorkshiredales.org.uk/visit-the-dales/get-outdoors-dalesDon’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple Podcast#tagmeinpodcast

EP25 - Catch me outside

2018-03-0400:25:32

EP21 - Educate me, my finances are a mess!
In this episode, we discuss the importance of financial education and questioned who exactly is responsible for educating children on finances; school or our parents.The Frontin' LifestyleIn our early years, we are often are trying to live up to the expectation of others, often leaving people with "Swag but no money". Unfortunately, some people carry this into their adult life. Do you know someone whose spending habits is to create an image and in truth is them 'Frontin' and is huge attempt to stay in trend?We questioned on the podcast where does this behaviour extend from, we referenced Kendrick Lamar songs - "Doves in the wild" as he mentions some guys will use material items as a cover up of their insecurities.I mean, the fake chains and the code namesFor insecure, gon' reassure you not to get pussyYou overcompensate too much for the pussyLearning from MillionairesMost millionaires live a slightly different lifestyle to those who try and front, Did you know? Most millionaires are likely to purchase a car second hand or buy relatively affordable clothing from high street stores. Thi s is reflected in the book millionaire next door Another key take away is the advice to live Financially free -get out of debt and stay out of debtLearning From our ParentsParents play a huge influence in the way we spend, some parents themselves lack the financial education to teach their children the fundamentals.Growing up Anton learnt about Frugal living - which means living within your means a term reflected in 'the richest man in babylon'.However, over the years he has understood and seed that was planted in his early years allowed him to form a healthy spending habit.Frugal living should not be at the sacrifice of quality if you can afford quality items then purchase it.Learn how to BudgetLearn to budget and avoid debt; find a method that works for you whether it's budgeting into individual money pot or utilising the money jar system of which your money is divided into 5 separate pots.Forward thinking goes a long way, be aware of you bills and outgoing - know when they are to come out especially those direct debits.Have your emergency FundWork out your outgoing each month and times it by 3, make sure you have that money saved away for a rainy day - if you have this then feel free to spend if you don't have any saving targets.Taking out a credit Card?Before taking out a credit card, question why you are getting it.Is it for credit history scoring - be aware that a large factor on your credit scoring is paying your bills on timeIs it for cashback - Amex maybe a Santander 123 accountDid you know? 75% of credit card owners only pay the minimum repaymentDebtThe largest debt is a mortgage, it seems like everyone wants to own a home but make sure you are not caught out by unexpected interest rate increase. Can you handle a 2% interest rate increase on your mortgage repayment?Making extra moneyRemember there are other ways to make money on the side if you are constantly in the red go the extra mile and utilise the sharing economy we have:-AirbnbBla Bla CarEbayLessons learntRichest man in babylon - make your money work for youSet Goals and target for money, if you have a holiday coming up work out the cost of it and work out how much you need to save each month to fulfil your target.Rich Dad Poor Dad, it taught the two of us about Assets and LiabilitiesHow owning a house is actually a liability as it is taking money out of your pocket rather than putting money into it.More Informationhttp://www.moneysavingexpert.com/financial-education/http://www.investopedia.com/terms/f/financial-literacy.aspDon’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple Podcast#tagmeinpodcast
EP19 - Bro! I'm Stressed
EP19 - Bro, I'm StressedIn this episode, Anton and Ola discuss stress a feeling both podcasters are currently living right now.Stress is a normal part of life and is usually described as the feelings a people experience when the demands made on them are greater than their ability to cope. What causes stress?Major life changes can create stress such as a special event such as a birthday, wedding, or meeting. It leaves us with a feeling that we haven't got everything under control.Often stress is related to the workplace whether it is high workload, being unemployed but also extends to finances, bereavement, family, relationship etc.What are the symptoms?Stress can affect all aspects of your life, including your emotions, behaviour, thinking ability and physical health. Emotionally:-OverwhelmedIrritable and 'wound up'Anxious or fearfulLacking in self esteemMentallyRacing thoughtsConstant worryingDifficulty concentrating Difficulty making decisionsPhysicallyHeadachesMuscle tension or painDizzinessSleep problemsFeeling tired all the time Eating too much or too littleStress that continues without relief can lead to a condition called distress, a negative stress reaction. Distress can lead to physical problems including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain and trouble sleeping. Research suggests that stress can also bring on or worsen certain symptoms or diseases.Dealing with it?A human body is designed to experience stress and react to it. Stress can be positive, keeping you alert and ready to avoid danger. Stress becomes negative when a person faces continuous challenges without relief or relaxation between challenges.It's important to tackle the causes of stress in your life if you can. Avoiding problems rather than facing them can make things worse.Stress also becomes harmful when people turn to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs to try to relieve their stress. Unfortunately, instead of relieving the stress and returning the body to a relaxed state, these substances tend to keep the body in a stressed state and cause more problems.Take time outPractice MindfulnessBook a spa TreatmentGet some well-deserved sleepAdopt good routinesExercise is a good way to combat stressHumour, go watch a film or a showReorganisation and prioritise Music share your problems with family or friendsMake more time for your interests and hobbiesAnxiety UK strongly advises that people seek further information and guidance from their GP who will be able to make a formal diagnosis.   More Informationhttp://www.webmd.boots.com/stress-management/physical-stress-symptoms https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/anxiety-type/stress/https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/stresshttps://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/stress/#.WaJ-2pOGPfYhttp://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/pages/understanding-stress.aspx http://www.stress.org.uk/what-is-stress/Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple Podcast#tagmeinpodcast#podsincolor

EP19 - Bro! I'm Stressed

2018-03-0400:43:56

EP16 - Rejection Hurts
EP16 - Rejection HurtsHear Anton and Ola talk about rejection, on this episode we discuss our views on rejection and talk about the pain and hurt that comes with it.Rejection can be defined as the act of pushing someone or something away. Rejection can come from family, friends, or a romantic partner. Regardless whether the rejection experience is big or small it still has an impact, interestingly today we face more rejection due to technology, social media platforms and dating apps.Yet we didn't speak about it but Tinder has served some rejection moments for both of us, technology has increased the number of people we are connected with and any of these people ignore our posts, chats, texts, leaving us feeling rejected.Evolutionary psychologists believe rejection was a mechanism built to let us survive in past, whilst living in a tribe being ostracized from a tribe would result in an inability to survive in the wild.As a result, we developed an early warning mechanism to alert us when we were in danger of being kicked out the tribe and that was rejection and in this moment people were likely to change their behaviour so they can remain in the tribe.So why is rejection so painful?There has been a number of studies into rejection and it has been noted that the actually act of rejection causes 50 percent of the damage and the rest is caused by ourselves..The self inflicted pain is a natural response, in this response we become intensely self-critical, we tackle our self-esteem when it is hurting the most.We say we are not good enough, we label ourselves names, and feel disgusted with ourselves.Interestingly there’s a physiological basis to the pain of rejection, too. Research shows that rejection triggers the same brain pathways that are activated when we experience physical pain.How to curb the unhealthy responses?Revive Your Self-WorthRemind yourself of what you have to offer rather than listing your shortcomings, a simple way can be making a list of five qualities you have that are important or meaningful. This is the best way of boosting your feelings of self-worth, this process helps you identify yourself and affirms aspects of yourself that are invaluable.ListeningThe person rejecting us sometimes gives us cues that can help us in the future, at times we can focus on the reason in that moment and go off in our own minds rather than listening to that person explanation the opposite is some people will be protective and either avoid the situation or take their mind of the interaction.Support system A good support system enables us to talk through our rejection but also gain a different perspective and a source of encouragementReflect and AnalysisHighlighted by Ola, sometimes you have to take time out and identify why rejecting is happening and what actions or changes can you do.More informationhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejectionhttps://www.inc.com/amy-morin/5-ways-mentally-strong-people-deal-with-rejection.htmlhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/13/rejection-coping-methods-research_n_4919538.htmlhttp://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/rejectionWhy rejection hurts so much — and what to do about itDon’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple Podcast#tagmeinpodcast#podsincolor

EP16 - Rejection Hurts

2018-03-0400:45:01

EP14 - Friendship - What it means to you?
EP14 - Friendship - What it means to you?In this podcast episode, we speak about the key characteristics we look for in friendships. Characteristics like honesty, openness, trust, respect, and people being on a similar path in lifeHow do we define friendships?Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people, but the definition of friends differ from person to person.The characteristics we look for in friends also differs.Friendships are interesting and often taken for granted and it is at our last moments that we discount things like money and achievements and focus on people - friends and family.New friendships?Coming to our new home Bristol has meant we had to seek out new friendships, and it is not the most easier thing to do. You can't just walk up to a stranger and introduce yourself on the friendship level.However with the growth of the internet there are some platforms which helped us especially Meetup.comWhat does it take to maintain a friendship?Maintaining a friendship is a two-way thing but there are things you can do to help maintain it and taking it to the next level:-1. Reaching OutMake the effort, reach out to your friends and try and arrange a moment to catch up or see each other.2. Making time for the other personWith life speeding at 100 miles per hour maintaining friendship can be tricky, technology and social media make us feel like we are having deep human interaction when in reality it's not.Social media has resulted in a large number of friendships, but it's about quality rather than quantity when it comes to friendships.Make time for your friends, maybe schedule time to call your friend or meetso you can have that deep human interaction3. Being reliableDon't be the person that continuously lets your friend down, make the commitment and stand by your words4. Open UpVulnerability and showing your true self is complicated. It leads to deep friendship, but it can also scare people away if you go deep too quickly.5. Experience new things togetherA new experience is an excellent way to create new memories, that you can relive in the future.5. Speak the TruthIf you want to make quality friendships, you need to take off your masks by being yourself and speaking the truth.If you want friends, you have to be a friend.More informationhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendshiphttps://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/friendshttps://journal.thriveglobal.com/5-secrets-that-will-take-your-friendships-to-the-next-level-a96953f78fd2Don’t forget to follow us on our social media platformsWebsiteTwitterInstagramPinterestFacebookSoundcloudApple Podcast#tagmeinpodcast#podsincolor
EP13 - Who Am I? Lost Phase? Identity? With conscious movement @conscious movement
Who Am I? Lost Phase, Identity?In this episode, with the addition of a special guest, Amit – “Conscious Movement” shares his journey on defining himself and his brand.He share’s what it’s like to be in the lost phase, what it takes to break out of the norm and other little gems like where he draws his inspiration from.Amit has been able to combine his passions into a platform – sounds very similar to Gary Vaynerchuk.Conscious movement is an organisation, which believes in better possibilities in life mentally, spiritually and physically.So we all struggle to figure out who we are, an unnerving place to be but there are some steps we can do to help us. In this episode we speak about: -What inspires us?Who inspires you?Who you want to be?What’s it like in the lost phase?Do you feel like you are constantly redefining yourself?Do experiences shape you as a person?Does your circle play an influence in your identification?Some useful steps•Take action – we have things we always wanted to do but have not done it yet.Experience is key and by taking action you put yourself out there. You experience things you haven’t done before, and potentially you could find out what gets you going?•Get to know yourself, an incredibly important skill to help you define yourself. Don’t live in other people’s reality - live your own realityoDon’t be afraid to break the norms of society – culture, race, gender•Notice how you identify yourself.• Identify your core values. You don't want to define yourself based on outside forces because outside forces are volatile and subject to constant change. oWrite down a list of these values and consciously and mindfully act them out in your daily life.#tagmeinpodcast #identity #consciousmovement #podsincolorListen to Tag Me In Podcast and hear our opinions on dating in as millennials.What are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast #podsincolor
EP7 - Why Do People Cheat?
In this episode, Anton & Ola explore reasons as to why people cheat on their spouses. They also delve into their personal experiences.Interesting in the book mentioned use this link: - http://amzn.to/2rF75LMWhat are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast

EP7 - Why Do People Cheat?

2018-03-0400:53:51

EP 6 - Lessons Learnt In Our 20's
In this episode, Ola & Anton reflect on lessons learned in their early 20's. Our Dos & Don'ts, our regrets and mistakes and the things we would do differently or wouldn't change for the world.Enjoy!What are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast
EP5 - Importance of a Vision Board
In this episode, Anton & Ola discuss the importance of having a vision board. The benefits and how to go about creating one!Make sure you buy the book the secret - http://amzn.to/2rLH1hTWhat are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast
EP4 - Benefits of Volunteering - What it means to me!
Listen to my newest episode and discover more fascinating content from my channel!Anton and Ola discuss their involvment in the volunteering world. The benefits of volunteering and helping within the local community.Volunteering is the commitment of time and energy, for the benefit of society and community, the environment, or individuals outside ones immediate family. It is undertaken freely and without concern for financial gain.Volunteering can give you the opportunity to try something new, gain experience, develop skills, improve your career prospects, build confidence and meet new people.What are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast
EP3 - Is it a good idea to date your ex?
Listen to my newest episoCase of the ExThere is an old saying of ‘Time heals all wounds’, which some believe to be more true than ‘Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it’. These conflicting approaches to comparing the present with past are at the forefront of a new relationship between two people who have previously been in a relationship together.Looking at the reasons as to why you broke up in the first place, and how things are different now, in addition to the individual growth and development that has taken place over time. Anton and Ola discuss their views on dating ex-partners, and speak about their own personal circumstances. Some say your past is your past for a reason. You both had a good reason for letting go in the first place. You both could be carrying baggage from the past relationship. What you feel now is not what you did feel or will feel when you are with your ex.What are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcastde and discover more fascinating content from my channel!
EP 2 - Why is personal development so important?
Hear our views on personal development, including some harsh truth in cutting and block certain people.Some interesting points that you may want to hear more on: -•Average of your 5 closest people•Should you be carrying other people including “Killer Man”•Hear Ola talk about his gains?•Hear Anton talk some wickedness about his goal to leap from his career?•Will our next podcast be recorded from a coffee shop in Amsterdam?•Hear about the books that kick-started our journey?What are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast
EP 1 - Who should pay on the first date?
Are we living by ancient values when it comes to dating?These values dictate how men and women should behave on a date especially when it comes to the first date.Should these values stand when things are changing so much? Listen to Tag Me In Podcast and hear our opinions on dating in as millennials.What are we about? -------------------------------------------------------As two young black British males we discuss and have open discussions about our own personal journeys including the highs and the lows.Listen and hear us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics, we understand how important it is to share our stories and how powerful it is to hear other people's stories – There is so much value you can learn from others and you may discover they are or have walked a similar path to yours.-------------------------------------------------------Listen to us share our own experiences and cover a variety of topics on SoundCloud, Apple podcast or Android.https://soundcloud.com/tag-me-in-podcasthttps://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/tag-me-in-podcast/id1229670541?mt=2&at=1000lwvb&ct=youtube-------------------------------------------------------Social Media - Why not follow us:-Instagram: https://instagram.com/tagmeinpodcastTwitter: https://twitter.com/tagmeinpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/tagmeinpodcastPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/tagmeinpodcast-------------------------------------------------------Don't forget to subscribe to our channel-------------------------------------------------------Interested in starting your own podcast here the kick we used:-MacBook Pro for editing (GarageBand/iMovie) - http://amzn.to/2rLy8owBlue Yeti Microphone - http://amzn.to/2rbQNLk#podcast #blackpodcaster #blackbritish #blackpodcast
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EP45 - Boundaries In Relationships

EP45 - Boundaries In Relationships