This is a powerful, raw, and deeply human AA share. Ralph’s story traces the full arc of alcoholism—from denial and destruction, through surrender, to recovery—and then shows how recovery tools sustain him even through the unimaginable grief of losing a daughter.

A few things that stand out:

• The turning point: His surrender moment in the back of the patrol car is described with visceral clarity—he frames it as survival instinct rather than divine intervention, but the effect is the same: the compulsion to drink left him.

• Honesty about the wreckage: He doesn’t minimize the harm his drinking caused—family neglect, DUIs, jail, shame. This makes his recovery testimony even stronger.

• Recovery practices: Commitments, listening to others, honesty, authenticity, showing up, helping without expecting a return. He describes the transformation from “acting as if” to genuinely becoming the man he wanted to be.

• Grief in sobriety: The death of his daughter is crushing, yet he turns to program principles—showing up, being present, not escaping into alcohol or drugs. His choice to “walk straight with eyes wide open” shows the strength that long-term recovery can bring.

This is the kind of share that newcomers can cling to for hope, and old-timers can recognize as truth.