How often do you say no?

In this episode, I unpack the beautiful mess that is boundary-setting—with stories, psychology, and a touch of Brexit. This episode dives deep into what it really means to assert your needs.

Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re more like installing a front door with a lock you actually use. We explore why people-pleasing kills self-respect, how resentment creeps in when you’re too “nice,” and why your future depends on the limits you’re willing to draw today.

What you’ll take away:

• 10 signs of poor boundaries


• How to spot a weak boundary before it drains your energy


• Why saying no can be the kindest thing you do


• You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate


• How to identify emotional manipulation in everyday relationships


• A quadrant model that makes difficult conversations easier

Listen now if you’re ready to stop being agreeable and start being respected.

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Episode: Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

Chapters:

00:00 Setting boundaries for how you want to be treated

02:58 Boundaires in life Example

05:10 Why boundaries need balance

07:19 10 signs of poor boundaries

07:35 Difficulty making decisions

07:58 Feeling selfish for saying no

08:18 Frequent apologizing

08:49 Uncertainty about what to share

09:13 Passive aggressiveness

09:49 Losing sense of self

10:10 Need for external validation

10:26 Resentment

10:43 Constant sense of fatigue

11:02 Dramatic relationships

11:34 Abusive situations

15:03 Identifying crap boundaries

15:14 Floppy boundary

17:22 Rigid boundary

19:10 Why we struggle with boundaries

23:09 Creating healthy boundaries

23:39 Personal boundaries

24:07 Social boundaries

25:24 Value-based boundaries

26:43 Communicating boundaries

28:25 Traffic light framework

31:58 The importance of independence

34:41 Book suggestions

35:22 Send off

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