Empowering and Equipping Women Change-Agents Making a Positive Impact in the World.
Angie Leigh Monroe is an International Speaker, Strategist and Consultant whose expertise guides people to identify and obliterate obstacles. Her innovate approach will ALIGN you with strategic partnerships, ACTIVATE your purpose and CALIBRATE your potential to encounter even more opportunities.
She a has founded:
Angie Leigh Monroe, Inc which is the parent company for her consulting and speaking business as well as her legacy projects. https://angieleighmonroe.com
D.I.V.A.S. Impact - Which Empowers and Equips a global community of women change-agents making a positive impact in the world we live in.
Veteran DIVAS – Which Empowers and Equips veteran women as they tackle the next big thing in their life.
Angie is a native Texan, Navy veteran and Executive Director with the John Maxwell Team. This year she celebrates 27 years of marriage to her husband Michael who she met while in the Navy, they have 3 children and 2 grandchildren as well as several other bonus kids who call them family!
Donnie Boivin: So I got a buddy Chad King that told me I need to talk to Angie, so we’re finally getting her on the show. I harassed her a little bit and she agreed to come on. Looking forward to this so Chad I owe you one I’ll probably buy you a beer next time I see you. I’m Donnie Boivin and this is Success Champion - Angie Monroe; welcome to the show dear please, please tell us your story.
Angie Monroe: Well thank you for having me, I absolutely love Chad and his wife Shelly. I grew up with them so we knew each other prior to the military. And then he went to the marines and I went to the navy after high school. I think we both were just trying to find our ways. We both had things we were great at in our younger youth, but we still just wanted something that's a little bit more.
And I think I see something in my friend Chad that I resonate with is, he wants to be significant in his journey through life. He is really always out there networking and investing in worthy causes and being a part of the community around him and I love that because that's what I was raised with.
My dad was a police officer in our local town, my mom worked for the government and that's why we joke that I had to go halfway around the world and into the military to find a husband because nobody would marry me with a dad that was a police officer and a mom that worked for the government. So I found a West Virginian hillbilly and CB in the navy and we got married and started our family.
I really came out of the military struggling to find my identity, I was great at being an aircraft mechanic and I loved that but that didn't translate too well with mommy playgroups. Other women just didn't resonate with that. I don't understand why they just can't get along with a girl that's used to throwing wrenches at people because they're talking back to ‘em or that can change a generator in less than 30 minutes on a P3; they just didn't get me.
And I was really struggling with finding that place to belong. I worked for a local church in the Dallas Fort Worth area, I had a woman's pastor come up to me one day and say, “Why aren't you in a life group?” I said because there isn't one that fits my schedule, there isn't one that fits my lifestyle, there just isn't one that's good for me. Then she goes, “Well maybe if you can't find what you’re looking for, others can't find what they're looking for and maybe you just need to create it.”
Donnie Boivin: Well when you give a new veteran a task and you're kind of like hold my beer and watch this, right?
Angie Monroe: Exactly. First off, I told her I didn't like her very much; Second off I don't need another thing on my plate. I was the mom, my husband works 24/7 as an on-call commercial plumber. What he did in the navy translated into his work life but I worked umpteen hours and I was constantly shuffling kids outside of work, there was nothing that fit my lifestyle.
So I started sending out little daily inspirations to my group of girls I then worked with because I could see and I could hear them all feeling some of the same things I was feeling. Maybe not the same specific things but they were all feeling disconnected and not able to connect with women in real life.
So I just started doing little daily inspirations, that little daily inspiration email list grew and grew and grew and grew to where finally I was asked to not to send it from the church anymore because it was crashing the servers. So then I was like what do I do, this was over 10 years ago. I kind of pushed pause for a little bit, “Ok that didn't really go as I expected, how do I get where I want to go?” And I kept seeing Real Housewives of wherever, Girls Behaving Badly; The Bad Girls Club and I'm like I don't relate to any of them.
They're great psychology studies but they're not really great for building long-term sustainable relationships and they're not really people I want to put on an idol. Then I started talking to other women and they’re like, “Yeah, we just don't know how to be good girlfriends anymore. We're too busy with our own lives and consumed with our own lives to be good girlfriends and we get made fun of by the guys because they just see the surface level.“
And I said, “Well, we can't fix what the guys see until we fix what we see.”
Donnie Boivin: True, well said.
Angie Monroe: We really just started talking with a whole bunch of women, I travelled across the country for a year talking with women in all walks of life. Professional and Fortune 500 company women, all the way down to girls that are going from highschool to college and getting their first job and asking what it is they were missing in their lives and that birthed our organisation called DIVAS Impact.
DIVAS Impact stands for: Destined, Inspired, Victorious, Accountable Sister and making a positive impact in the world. Just recently rolled out our Veteran DIVAS Tribe because we realised that our women that have served our country have some special and unique things that have happened to them and working alongside brother's like you... somethings are great and some things are not so great.
Little so-and-so that goes to church with me will not understand the things that I went through.
Donnie Boivin: Or all the things that come out of your mouth (laughs).
Angie Monroe: Right, the random pops in my head that pop out, they don't understand why I was so violent when I was in the military and I'm like it wasn't being violent it was being toe-to-toe to and not backing down, that was a sign of weakness.
Donnie Boivin: I mean at that point you were kind of like being a dude with long hair because you had to.
Angie Monroe: Exactly, that's how you had to be accepted and I was a girl's worst enemy when I was in the military. If a girl wanted to come into our shop and work at our shop I was much harder on them than any of the guys were.
Donnie Boivin: That makes sense. This is fun, you go and do the whole navy thing I'll try not to hold that against you too much
Angie Monroe: That's alright, I know your department of the navy.
Donnie Boivin: Absolutely, the men's department.
Angie Monroe: Men's department, I love that (laughs).
Donnie Boivin: You’re an aircraft mechanic, that's fun. I was a Motor T mechanic when I was in the cooler and you guys had a hell of a lot more fun playing with planes and we getting put on trucks. We just drank a little bit more but you go through that and the transition process, a lot of people in the military do. I love how you started off, I went to the military because I didn't know what the hell I wanted to do when I grow up, right? That just seemed like the next move. But you get out of the military and you are more still in the same spot, now what?
I love the fact that you've gone through that and you figure it out through process of elimination if you will, you're kind of role in life but I also like that somebody kind of said hey, do this and it helped you figure it out. I'm curious if they wouldn't have said hey and you do this, do you think you'd be where you are right now?
Angie Monroe: It would be really interesting to find out if I would, just simply because I'm a strong personality...
Donnie Boivin: Nooo...
Angie Monroe: ...my girl that manages the office here for me, she even made the comment that's like you intimidate me at times. She's a strong girl, she's an athlete; she went on college to be an athlete she can hold her own but she told me you intimidate me at times. And I realise that. It also take another woman just as strong if not stronger than me to say that to me.
If anybody else had said that to me it would have gone in one ear and out the other but because of the weight that this woman carries with her presence and with her authority. It was going to eat away at me for the rest of my life if I didn't do something, you know. Then I start realising the thing I was looking for was working with women, which created a whole other issue because I didn't like women.
Donnie Boivin: Yeah, as I said.
Angie Monroe: Normally where your greatest calling is, the area where you need the most work in.
Angie Monroe: That was biggest hurdle right there.
Donnie Boivin: It's funny I do a lot of private coaching and and most of my clientele are women as well and I don't know why, it's just how it worked out and I've had a couple of them say why don't you do this group coaching session.
And I said, “Have you ever put a bunch of alpha women in one room? Yeah, it doesn't usually go very well because it'll take you 4 days to get through the hand pecking order right before everybody gets settled down.” How did you take that strong alpha personality and be able to handle the none alphas?
Angie Monroe: The part I didn't realise, the part that took me by surprise is how many people sit back and watch. They don't say anything, they don't interact; they just watch. Then when they want, when they need; when their back is against the wall they'll come to you. And they come to you because you've already proven yourself through them watching you.
One of my favourite stories is 4 years ago I was speaking and Los Angeles, a lady came in and she was at an appointment in the building or something like that but she heard me speaking from the stage and so she just kind of wandered into the event. I was handing out cards and stuff like that and she took 1 and several months later I get a phone call and it's over Facebook Messenger and I'm like what in the world is going on. Facebook Messenger comes up, I answer it. I didn't even know you can make calls on Facebook Messenger at the time, it was such a new thing.
I answer it and I hear screaming in the background. The lady is being attacked by her spouse, we were able to get her location - she called me from an iPad that she stored in the bathroom which is the place she ran to when she got into trouble. She calls the us, we got the police over there; he got arrested and before he was able to get out of jail we able to have her moved into a safe house and had her under safety. She's still under a lot of therapy because it had been years and years and years of torment that she had been through with him.
I would have never known that woman was in the room, I never paid attention to me or anything but she had gotten on, she had started following, she had started listening, she had literally been watching and following everything we were doing but she's not somebody who would be the loud boisterous woman you would talk to.
I just build trust with her by being real, being funny, being loud but being impactful, not just to make a noise but to show that I really care about people and that's my biggest blessing right there. I’m impacting people that I don't even know.
Donnie Boivin: One of the greatest things that I was ever told, when I first started getting on stages and stuff was, “Donnie, it's not about people that have the guts to come up and say hi. It's about the people that don't,” and the difference what he was telling me was when you're getting on the stage the first thing you gonna do is go walk around the crowd because there's people that really in their heart know that they need to be raising their hand and asking for your help and advice but they're also battling their own self doubt and everything else and you've got to be the person that bridges that gap. So now I've learnt soon as I get off stage I have to go amongst the people and start shaking hands.
Angie Monroe: Yeah and it's so true. I've always had the ability even as a young child, I would see the people that are hiding in the shadows you know? So you always had the people there were right there wanting to be part of all the action and then you had the people that want to be part of it but they don't want the attention and that type thing so they are on the peripherals of the group.
I've been one that whatever company i've worked at, even in high school; I will go sit with the people that nobody wanted to sit with. I would go hang out with those people because I wanted them to know that they were seen because if they don't know that they were seen, they may do something that will cause them to disappear.
I felt that even has younger child, so working at church offices, working at corporate offices, I would always go out and meet the people that were kind of like “the forgotten ones”. I worked at an air cargo company, I would go out and meet with the mechanics that were in the outpost and the pilot's that worked the outpost because they were the ones that were never in headquarters to be seen or connect with, you know?
Now whenever we get off the stage, yes there's a line of people that want to talk to you there's always that but I also try and go and purposely talk to that person that's still sitting in their seat observing because maybe they take a little longer to process what you just said. And ask them how are you doing today. I don't ask them what they enjoyed it about my talk...
Donnie Boivin: Absolutely.
Angie Monroe: I don't make them about me I ask them how they're doing, what are some of their goals, what is it that you want to accomplish - how can we help you accomplish that? What does that look like for you? Believe it or not I don't sell a lot, I really don't I just add value a lot. I was listening to your thing with “Miss Charlynda” earlier on, I love listening to her because she's such a fireball.
She and I are on the same page when it comes to relationship marketing. It is all about building those relationships, I don't need to sell everybody in the room right now because I'm building relationships because if I build relationships, I will have long-term longevity and not only will I be able to sell to them but they'll be able to sell to me because now we’ve built mutual trust.
Whenever I'm ready to post on our Facebook page, on social media or in our podcasts that we're launching soon - I've got trustworthy relationships built and I'm not just saying he is so and so from Josh Mows down the street, I'm talking about someone I actually know and that's important to me. I don't refer people for jobs much less anything else with my name attached to it unless I can really put the rubber to the road on them.
Donnie Boivin: What's awesome is, I think there's 2 people in this world and I don't mean to put people in boxes but there's really 2 people. And the 2 people are, there’s somebody that carves a trail and there's people that follow that trail. I love the fact that you have the torch out front and you're just blowing things up and rolling and going because it takes those strong personalities to draw all those people in and it takes the strong set of shoulders to be able to carry that burden and that weight.
You know it very well because when you need it, leave it all out they are on the stage, they take it out of you real quick. Because you're trying to deliver so much of a message to these people. How did it evolve into this bigger thing I mean I know you went across the US and you're talking to all these women from all walks of life… How did it form into this, and you don't have to say the name of DIVAS again because I'm going to hell trying to remember that acronym it's a very cool, big, powerful word though. Now how did it evolve into that?
Angie Monroe: It came out of a selfish thing, quite honestly. I needed to remind myself on a regular basis of I was, what I wanted to be, how I wanted to walk. My motto actually comes from a Bible verse but it’s, “Do justice, walk humbly and love kindness.” Just being very simple and how do I do theses things on a regular basis? How do I stand up for the woman who's being wronged physically, mentally, emotionally? How do I love them through all of that and how do I stay humble no matter what we accomplished through the process?
DIVAS Impact, I started looking at how many women didn't even know what they were destined or purposed for. They’re still just floating through life, they got married right out of high school or college and now they’re divorced and they have no idea what they wanna be when they grow up because they've always been a wife or a mom.
They are transitioning from high school to college and they still don't know what they wanna be. With the veterans they came out of the military, like “Miss Charlynda” said it took her 7 months to find a job because helicopter mechanics are not an everyday thing all over the world. It's amazing how different that is and so how do we find a way to find a place for them, for helping them identify their purposes and help them look back through their course of life and through their life map and to go to what is the silver cord of familiarity throughout their life that they could really just cling on to.
And then it goes on to who are you inspiring; who inspired you and who are you inspiring? Because it's a Pay It Forward model, we all have to Pay It Forward. The biggest one that's been our biggest target this year is the victory one, because we don't focus on victimisation.
Right now the biggest hate mail we are getting is literally from other women's groups and from the “#MeToo” and “Times Up” movement because we don't focus on the victimisation side of things. I'm not saying that there's not a place for those organisations. I'm just saying when you're done being a victim, come on! We’ve got something better better for you. Let us help you, walk you out of that victim mode and into victory mode - I'm one of those, I experienced sexual assault while I was in the military at the hands of a fiance. Left, beaten, battered all that stuff I have that side but I don't live in fear from it anymore.
I got news for other women out there, you don't have to live in fear from it either. It's absolutely imperative that you reach out and let us help you get to that place of victory. I could care less what Donald Trump or Billy Bush says about women on a bus. If women are saying nasty things about each other right across the dinner table it just doesn't make sense to be mad about that and not take care of what we're saying about ourselves, so we have to be accountable.
We have to be accountable of how we talk to each other and really be those sisters, true blood sisters love you, like you, don't like you whatever - you’re still gonna be linked arm in arm to each other come hell or high water because you're a sister. Well I'm speaking in London whether I’m speaking in Texas, Georgia, Louisiana, wherever it is... the message is still the same; we are much stronger together, when we link arms together, than we are when we facing each other and pushing and causing that resistance.
That's our biggest challenge right now, really getting other women to really understand that we're not against any woman, we are completely open to any women even if they hate us. We are completely open to them because we truly want what's best for them.
Donnie Boivin: You know, here is what I really love about this, it's whatever you focus on you become. And if you focus on the victim side of things, you will stay in the victim side of things. But if you focus on where am I going, who am I becoming, how am I using this to empower… you know sh**y things happen to all kinds of people and you get two choices in life: You can dwell on something really crappy that happened to you and you can crawl in a hole and do it or you can step forward and keep moving forward and go and find groups like yours, I love this. You're actively empowering women to say that's not gonna define me.
Angie Monroe: Right, and that's exactly what our mission statement says,”We equip and empower a global community of women agents to make a positive impact in the world.” That’s really what we’re focusing on, we have the group classes that people can be apart of to walk through that healing from past traumas, no matter what the past trauma is. And it doesn't matter what level of trauma it is.
The other part I hear is, oh well your assault is not bad as my assault. It doesn't matter! Come on man!
Donnie Boivin: I can't believe that, that would be a saying.
Angie Monroe: Or it's kind of like a guy saying well you did combat in Syria, I did combat in Afghanistan.
Donnie Boivin: Right, right.
Angie Monroe: It was combat!
Angie Monroe: I am now made aware of a newer generation of women coming out of the military than what it was whenever I came out of the military, the ones that went before me coming out of the military and I think the other thing for our Veteran DIVAS as we have more soldiers coming home now which is great but they're coming home with more wounds because the technology and the medical technology is able to save them but there's still those emotional scars and how do we serve that community the best. I'm very invested in this part of it because I have two sons that serve in the military. One is a fake son but he's been with US since he was 12 so I share him with his momma...
Donnie Boivin: You just said fake son, I just want to point that out.
Angie Monroe: Well, we've had several kids live with us over the years and the first one I took one to school he introduced me as fake mom so all the other kids after that became fake kids.
Donnie Boivin: I love that because I had several moms like that grown up because I had Mum but I still got but his mums that I call Mom. They call me son and some other choice words you know; that's awesome.
Angie Monroe: You know as a mom who has a son that's in the army with seventh group. have another one with Fort Campbell with fort 60, they're very high volatile groups there and because they're in the military we all know that the likelihood of them finding a wife our girlfriend even will someone be military related 2 so why not start forging that path now. Whether it be a military brat or another soldier or whatever, so why not start 14 that path and opening doors doors so that my future daughter-in-law will be somebody there will bring about change for their generation of women so that's impactful for me
Donnie Boivin: There's so many organisations targeted at the veteran communities right now and I have two thoughts.One, a lot of those organisations just need to partner up and quit competing with each other. But this is the first time that I've heard of a group targeting the female veterans in this way so, good on you for coming up with a unique way to approach.
Because of Facebook (love it or hate it) I've had the privilege of meeting so many awesome and really bad ass women that come out of the military and they all got stories and they all got impact.
I forgot the number I saw one tIme but the number of sexual traumas that come out of the military for the women are ridiculously high and what people don't understand is that when we were on camp, the guy to girl ratio was 10000 to 1. And it's insane, so that's why (it doesn’t make it right) I like girls like you that are strong and confident when I say you were a dude with long hair and you’re like of course.
So I love the fact that you are going in and working with those girls, and their stories and their transitions because I think people are trying to take it from the whole and you've really niched down and I think that’s solid because just like guys, yeah they're gonna have your own damn language, you're gonna have your own way of talking, and we talked about it earlier I mean you've got a bunch of veterans in one room? The civilians are gonna freak the hell out because of how they're talking to each other, how they're saying it and what they're actually saying,so good on you.
Where do you think this whole thing is taking you, you're doing some really cool things...
Angie Monroe: I mean I'm getting to meet some people, like you said there's a bunch of organisations there that do some amazing things for the veterans but the biggest thing that I'm excited about is that I'm more of a networker by nature. I love getting out, meeting people, finding out what they're passionate about.
DIVAS Impact doesn't have to meet all the needs, we just need to know who can meet their needs so we can be that connecting point. My biggest challenge with DIVAS Impact was that there wasn't anything that was speaking to the whole woman.
You can go and be a part of this for this fitness challenge, or this fashion challenge, or this for spiritual study and this for business… It was like that's segmenting the woman, you're taking more of their time because now they have to be a part of all these 15 things to fit that whole woman. What we wanted to create was a whole woman approach, so we talk about faith, family, fun, fitness, finance and just a lot of other words that begin with f and some that don't.
We get real, we will talk about things they’ll go, yeah you’re just an all christian group... and I'll say we are not a Christian group, we're not a non-profit, we're not a Christian group - we’re not a nonprofit because I wanted women to realise the value of investing in themselves so I didn't want them to see the word non-profit and get a poverty mindset, “I need to get, I need to get, I need to get.” They will get a tonne of value, from a very minimal investment we give out. The other part is you know quite frankly, the best challenge we’ve had is getting chewed out by people because we charged $20 for something.
Donnie Boivin: (laughs)
Angie Monroe: $20. If that's what you bent over shape over, then so be it but let's talk about your mindset first and they'll go oh. Our goal is not to shine a light on the things you've done wrong, all the things that happened to you. If we look in a dark cave, you're in a dark cave so when you've gone through something bad you’re in a bad spot like she said, went through bankruptcy and all of the stuff she went through. We’re not gonna go, “Look you had a bankruptcy and you had to give this up and give that up, oh man I'm not sure if I can trust you!”
We're going to go you know what, we see you’re in a hole right now... you see this light? We're going to shine it on a hand if you just reach the hand then we’re going to help you walk out of this.
Donnie Boivin: You know my favourite meme that's running around the social media right now, keep getting chills just thinking about it - there's a veteran down in a hole and the veteran is sitting in the bottom of his hole and a psychologist who walks by and says we're gonna talk about your childhood, we're going to talk about your past and the veteran does that and the psychologist walks away and hey I did that but I'm still sitting in this hole.
The doctor comes by and says you know what the problem is? You just haven't had enough medication so we're gonna give you some pills, so the veteran takes the pills and he goes well I took the pills but I'm still in this hole. And then family and friends and everyone keeps coming by and everyone keeps trying but I'm still down in this hole and all of a sudden another veteran walks by sees down in the hole jumps down the hole, the first veteran and goes what the hell now it's 2 of us down here, the second veteran goes don't worry I've been here before I know how to get the hell out.
Angie Monroe: Right, exactly and it's huge. It’s so huge that we do that. One of my favourite organisations to donate to actually was one that made an impact for my daughter. It's a Christian organisation called Embrace Grace, it's for single moms with unplanned pregnancies. They just make it a safe place for girls to come back to church and not be ashamed or shunned by it. When my daughter went through it, the healing process for that was huge, because I was a girl with an unplanned pregnancy and I didn't realise the shame that I carried for that until my daughter walked through this process and I got healing through that.
That one organisation helped me tremendously, so now I recommend and refer a lot of girls to that organisation. I want the same thing to happen with us, I want people to come here and get help, get healing and they go but y’all do things from a faith basis, I’m like I've been raised in church my whole life I worked for a church, you know there's the whole saying of I love Jesus and I cuss a little too.
Angie Monroe: But I was in the navy, I can't help it every once in a while it just pops out. On the other side I said that we go places that Jesus went that the church no longer goes to. We rub elbows with people that have done things that the church is shaming them for and casting them out for or society has cast them out for and it's really hard to get people to trust you if you're not willing to get dirty and it really is.
Donnie Boivin: Yeah and that's something because like you pointed it out there may be sitting in a hole they, may be sitting in the cave, they may be sitting in that dark place - I don't give a sh*t where the candle comes from, where the light comes from, what the background and the story is as long as you carrying a freaking torch and say hey it's this way, more freaking power to you.
Angie Monroe: Yeah and there is so many great people in the veteran community and even in the regular community that have been through stuff that can help these people walk out. At first people need to know that they are there and that they are safe to walk them out.
Right now there's just not enough of and I don't know if you're a part of that but there's the organisation that they found out that a service member is in trouble and they go and talk to the service member, they may be suicidal they may be whatever and they go and help out so they are rolling up their sleeves. Where are you? How do I get to you? We're going to solve this… we need more of that.
People are too caught up in their phones, in their Facebook to do anything.
Donnie Boivin: That's it, people are turning a blind eye because I don't know if you're both saying that you're helping somebody out by osmosis you're gonna be a bad person now too or whatever the hell is going on with them. Everyone is so worried about what everybody else will think about them, this is just doing the right damn thing, getting off your desk and going to help some souls out.
I mean seriously good on you guys because once again, you got to have a broad set of shoulders to be able to carry that torch, you've already said it but I know you’re catching it on the chin from these big organisations and from these big movements and keep picking a fight. There's so many women that are going through their journey and, don't want to be the victim they don't want to live in those dark places. They want to stay out of it and become... so, good on you for giving them a place that they can call home.
Angie Monroe: I think that's the biggest challenge right now, we're finding that some of those women that do want to get out of it but we’re also finding some of these women that are so comfortable in being the victim right now that they are so afraid of what walking out of that victimhood.
When I was attacked, I was attacked from behind. Like I said it was a very brutal attack and it was bad and when I found out that I was completely free of all of my fear - most militaries, I’d walk in and never sit with my back to the door, I always had my guard up, I was always self aware of everything that goes on.
There was a couple of other fears in there too but there was one time I was sitting at a hotel, in a restaurant I went to eat my soup and as I picked up this spoon to put this soup in my mouth I started laughing because I realised that, at that point I was sitting in the restaurant with my back to the door and I was facing the wall and I realised at that point the level of healing I've gone from that trauma.
From that point on everything just escalated into quicker and quicker being free and it was the most impactful moment I've ever had of realising how free I was from that. Being able to tell that to other woman that they can have that too, they say well I do that anyway I have to know where all the doors are then I say you don't have to know that, you're choosing to the know that now because you’re choosing to stay in this wreck you’re in. Let us help you walk out of it and it's been really powerful to watch some of these women walk out of it.
Working with some of these organisations that are around here and referring them to go on retreat with other women who have been through that part of the work and back and start working through things even more. There's a homeless epidemic, just starting to hit the womEn - they just don't get the help the men do because they can't stay in the shelters...
Donnie Boivin: ...because of the sexual abuse.
Angie Monroe: ...because of the sexual assault. It's just a reoccurring epidemic and so how do we go in and start making these changes and Texas is a great state for veterans and veteran work but we still got a long way to go. And we have a lot of work that needs to be done in that area and I wanna start locally, Texas-wise and start branching out into other states and working with other states to get things going and go federal on how we can change things.
Not just for the DIVAS that are veterans, for the studs that are veterans (laughs). Because whatever impacts the women, there are still some guys that are getting sexually assaulted in the military. Though they’re smaller numbers because we just don’t talk about that so how do we help them too along the way?
That's the other part of our organisation we don't male bash, anybody that male bashes gets blown out because yes there is... I'm gonna say it… I’m gonna use the buzzword this week… There is toxic masculinity, those are the jerks that beat the crap out of women, that’s toxic masculinity. It is not the guys that come out, they provide for their family, they make a couple of crude jokes here and there whoopee you know, words don't hurt you - fists, pipes and guns and all that can hurt you if they’re used in the wrong hands.
We wanna talk about how can we look at men and women coexisting without the male bashing or the trash talking of women but it all starts with how we look and see ourselves first, we've got to put value on ourselves first.
Donnie Boivin: If the entire society, if the entire world… look at it through those damn lenses, this would be a lot easier place to live. Because I can tell you as a dude man, the way a lot of things are happening you become too hesitant on what to say, how you act, how you keep yourself and I've never done anything. I've been a good dude, I've been married to the same woman this entire ride, raised by a great mom a great family. There's no reason that I should be slightly on edge, during all this stuff so, good on you girl, good on you.
Angie Monroe: Well my husband and I, we were in Ohio last week we were in West Virginia last week for a family event and while we were up there one of the cousins brought up that commercial that talked about the toxic masculinity and I said well let's put it up and look at it.
So we watched it together, I wanted him to give his opinion before I gave mine and his saying was we needed more men stepping up and being leaders for this future generation to the men that's what his take out of it was. But he could see wait a minute, I'm not enough, I'm not doing the right thing, he was conflicted with the message himself.
But on the other side of it for me, I said I saw some guys in there that were in commercial mode, doing a great job but let's start focusing on the 600 guys that showed up for Dallas City Centre School for Dad's Day that didn't have kids in that school, try tell me they're not good guys. Why don't we look at the guys that responded down to Houston and put on during the floods down there, the people that showed up after hurricane Michael. Let's start looking at some of those. There were douches that showed up because they're always people that come and try to rip it off but let's let's call out the goodness.
I'll tell you quite honestly that's what saved our marriage when I started looking at my husband and going I see a better man in there than what I'm settling for and I see you being amazing at this, you're an amazing provider, you're an awesome cook, you're in this and I start calling out those greatness moments in him - the rest of the stuff goes by the Wayside. So if we want to start calling out things why don't we start calling out the greatness out of the people around us. That’s what we wanna see.
Donnie Boivin: You're such a burning flame and I'm in enjoying getting to know you more, because whatever you focus on you become. Whatever you’re influenced by you become and I'm not screaming fake news or any crazy sh*t but the news there is to sell, they're trying to sell commercials and everything else and they know that darkness sells.
The darker the story the more people to tune in. Turn that sh*t off. Get out of it and start surrounding yourself with people that are trying to do something with their lives and get better influences and go for it because otherwise you’re going to stay in that cave, you know? Good on you girl.
How do people get in touch with you Miss Angie?
Angie Monroe: Well, of course we have our DIVAS Impact page, on our DIVAS Impact page we have our Veteran DIVAS groups, and our DIVAS Inner Circle linked they can always email us, email@example.com and we are here in the US area but I travel all over the place so watch for our website being updated with all our locations. We’ll be travelling in New Orleans area in April, and Georgia in August, West Virginia in October and a couple more dates we’re still firming up between now and then.
We got a lot of places that we’re going to so we like to meet our DIVAS on the street out and about and connecting with people so that's what what we do.
Donnie Boivin: Awesome, awesome. Well, this has been a real honour to have you on the show. Here's how I like to wrap up every episode and I do shock some people with this so be forewarned. You're gonna leave people on the show, people from around the world. That's 75 countries right now listening, entrepreneurs, business owners, veterans, people from all walks of life… If you were gonna leave them with a quote, a phrase, a saying, a mantra, something they can take with them on their journey...
Angie Monroe: You know when I was 9 years old, I found this quote it was from John Maxwell and it's saved on my iPad it's my thing and it says,’Your willingness to learn and adjust positively from mistakes and shortcomings will largely determine how you travel on the road to success.’ I normally change the word ‘success’ to ‘significance’ because I'm on a path of significance that leads to my success.
Donnie Boivin: That's awesome, that's awesome. It's been an honour. I'm so glad I got to be part of your journey girl, thanks for coming on and doing this.
Angie Monroe: Alright, thank you.