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Today I will talk about our habit or tendency to continue to pursue or pine after people who aren’t showing us that they are fully interested in us.

So what do we do?… The guy leaps over that first hurdle. And instead of appreciating it for a while, we immediately put up another hurdle for him to jump over. And when he doesn’t — you’re back at square one.

There are three problems you might have:

1) You have a spirit of scarcity. You believe that you won’t find another person to date any time soon. You have to build up your confidence in your own appeal. Each new person is a stepping stone. You learn to attract better options. You learn to repel worse options. 

Positive energy leads to more positive energy which leads to more positive results.

3) You put up artificial rules. Who says that this person that you just met is supposed to me more than a one-night or a two-night stand? Who says that he is gonna be your future baby daddy? Nothing says that. If he is meant to be your forever person, he will be.

It takes time to slowly change your mindset. But these are the steps to do so:

a) Do not create visions of a perfect life together until they have invested some time into you. 

b) When you text him, don’t have any expectations of a response by a specific time.

c) If he starts to get lax with the communication, go ahead and write him off. 

Just like in every situation, always use any setbacks as an opportunity to improve yourself. Be open to self-evaluating yourself or taking feedback. 

Just because you believe you’re attractive doesn’t mean you have to believe you are already perfect. – Maxx Mitchell

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