In this episode of Midlife by Design, we explore the transformative journey of shedding the good girl archetype and embracing the wild woman, guided by Human Design. Host Lori Lisai shares strategies for breaking free from societal expectations and stepping into authenticity. By recognizing our Human Design Signature and its not-self theme, midlife women can align their actions with their true selves.

Key Takeaways:

What is the Good Girl Archetype?
The good girl archetype embodies societal pressures that prevent women, especially in midlife, from fully expressing themselves. This archetype relies on seeking approval and avoiding conflict.

Human Design’s Role:
Human Design helps distinguish between living authentically (your Signature) and operating out of conditioning (Not-Self). Each type—Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, Manifestor, and Reflector—has a unique signature emotion to guide them.

Signature and Not-Self Themes:

• Generators & Manifesting Generators: Move toward satisfaction and away from frustration by recognizing compromises made for approval.
• Projectors: Your signature is success; embrace your wisdom and avoid seeking validation.
• Manifestors: Seek peace by sharing your unique perspective; break free from the need for acceptance.
• Reflectors: Focus on delight and surprise; release rigid expectations and reflect on what truly brings you joy.

Steps to Embrace Your Wild Woman:

1. Tune Into Your Human Design Signature: Notice when you feel your signature emotion versus when you're stuck in not-self.
2. Create Space for Wildness Daily: Take small steps toward ignored desires.
3. Let Go of a Good Girl Habit: This could mean saying no or facing conflict openly.
4. Journal on the Wild Woman Archetype: Reflect on what the wild woman means to you.

Real-Life Example:
Lori shares a story of a client who set boundaries with her mother, inspired by Glennon Doyle’s advice to take actions that make your voice shake. Establishing boundaries allowed her to align with her authentic self and experience true satisfaction.

Courage to Step Into Your Wild Woman:
Embracing the wild woman is a gradual process of letting go of people-pleasing, recognizing your worth, and reclaiming your voice.

Join the Wild Women by Design Retreat

Dive deeper into this transformative work by joining the Wild Women by Design  five-month wraparound retreat experience with an in-person component in Costa Rica. This retreat is designed to support women as they transition from the good girl archetype into their wild woman, surrounded by like-minded women on the same journey. 

Resources Mentioned:

• Human Design readings with Lori Lisai

• Wild Women by Design Retreat – Costa Rica (March 2025)

• Glennon Doyle’s podcast, We Can Do Hard Things (with Abby & Amanda)

• Brené Brown's Values Exercise