🎧 SHOW NOTES

Melissa and David unpack the life lessons you don’t fully understand until you’re older — marriage lessons, regrets that shaped them, and the habits they wish they’d started earlier. From social norms that need to die to the things you only learn after 20+ years with the same person, this is classic Radke honesty with a side of humor, humility, and “oh dang, that hit a nerve.”

Also in this episode:the advice research of Dr. Karl Pillemer, the art of saying fewer dumb things in marriage, and why Melissa thinks some life regrets are actually a sign you grew up.

⭐ Episode Highlights

* Why regrets aren’t failures — they’re receipts of growth

* The marriage habits they wish they’d started in their 20s

* Why most people give bad advice (and how Pillemer’s research fixes it)

* What Melissa’s learning in her “don’t be a martyr” era

* How to apologize without adding a sermon, footnote, or side quest

* The single hardest marriage skill nobody teaches

* What older adults know that younger adults never believe

⏱️ Timestamps & Topics

00:00 – Life lessons we wish we learned earlier06:10 – What older people know about regret12:40 – How marriage actually matures you19:55 – The “hard truths” phase of life25:45 – Dr. Karl Pillemer’s research28:30 – Melissa’s take on giving and receiving advice

🔗 Links Mentioned

Mel Robbins Podcast (Dr. Karl Pillemer – 30 Lessons for Living) → https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-344/

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