In this special monthly episode of “Queer & Sober”, (a special offering thru the Coming Out Late podcast audience), Chris and Robin talk about one of the most universal parts of being human — belonging.  Chris and Robin's honest and personal reflections on what it's like to navigate recovery as a queer person and to find or build your own communities.

In this episode, you will learn…

• The difference between fitting in (performing for acceptance) and belonging (rooted in authenticity)
• How queerness and sobriety both ask us to live in truth — and how that truth can feel lonely without community
• Why belonging is biological, not just emotional: how co-regulation, safety, and connection heal our nervous systems
• Reflections on forgiveness, courage, and community repair — how we hold each other when we don’t get it perfect
• The power of “We” over “I” — moving from isolation to connection, from illness to wellness
• The birth of the Queer & Sober community — an invitation to bring your full self, without apology or performance
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

QUEER & SOBER COMMUNITY & RETREATS:

-RETREATS - Contact Chris: genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com

-COMMUNITY - Contact Robin: comingoutlater@gmail.com

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:

EVERY Monday Evening - 60 minutes.

8:00 pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

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THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:

Every OTHER Wednesday - 60 minutes

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Wednesday Meeting Dates:  Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;
No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

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THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:

Every OTHER Tuesday - 60 minutes

8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

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2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, June 2026; Charlotte, NC (September 10-13. For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

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