Lauren has had three very different births. She had a peaceful C-section due to breech presentation with a difficult recovery, a wild, unmedicated VBAC, and a calm, medicated 2VBAC. Due to her baby’s large size, she had to have an extra incision made during her Cesarean leaving her with a special J scar. 

Though her provider was hesitant to support a TOLAC with a special scar, Lauren advocated for herself by creating a special relationship with her OB and they were able to move forward together to help Lauren achieve both of her VBACs. 

Lauren talks about the importance of having an open mind toward interventions as she was firmly against many of the things that ended up making her second VBAC the most redemptive and healing experience of all. 

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Meagan: Hey, hey everybody. Guess what? We have our friend Lauren and her 11-day-old baby. Is that right? 

Lauren: Yeah. 

Meagan: 11 days old. You guys, I actually didn’t even know that this baby existed until we popped up on the Zoom and she was holding this precious little newborn. She was like, “Surprise! I had another VBAC.” So we will be sharing, well she will be sharing her two VBACs so 2VBAC and something kind of unique about Lauren is that she has a special scar, a special J scar, correct? 

Lauren: Yep. 

Meagan: Yeah, so that happened in her first C-section. If you are listening and you have a special scar or have been told that you have a special scar, this is definitely an episode that you are going to want to put on repeat and save because I know that there are so many people out there who are told that they have a special scar and that they should never or can never VBAC again. I know we’re not even getting into the story quite yet, Lauren, but did you have any flack with that? Did anyone talk about your special scar at all? 

Lauren: Yes. Advocating for the VBAC is probably the overarching theme of my VBAC because I really had to go to bat for myself for that without switching providers. 

Meagan: Yeah. We know that’s so common. We see it a lot in our community just in general trying to get a VBAC let alone a VBAC with a special scar. 

We are going to get into her story but I have a review and I didn’t even know that this was a review. It was left in a Baby Bump Canada group on Reddit actually so that was kind of fun to find. It’s really nice. It says, “Seriously, I’m addicted. I find them so healing. I had an unplanned and very much unwanted C-section and I have been unknowingly carrying around all of these emotions and trauma about it since. I thought I was empowered going into my first birth, but I wasn’t strong enough to stop the medical staff with all of their interventions. Don’t get me wrong, I believe interventions are necessary in some instances. But looking back now, I realize those interventions were put in place to make things easier involved in delivering my baby. Anyway, I won’t get into all of that here, maybe in a separate post. The point of my post is checking out The VBAC Link podcast. I listen to them all day now while caring for my babe. They also have a course you can take focusing on preparing for VBACs. Even if you just like birth stories, they have CBAC stories I believe as well. On the podcast, a guest also pointed out that what do you want for a VBAC birth– peace, redemption, etc.? She talked about how you can still feel those things if you need a Cesarean.” 

I love that point of view right there that you can still have peace and redemption even if you have a scheduled C-section or if your VBAC ends in a Cesarean. 

It says, “Another mom pointed out when she was feeling hesitant about saying okay to a C-section, her midwife said, ‘You have permission to get a C-section,’ not in a way that a midwife was giving her permission, but telling this mom, ‘C-section is okay and you shouldn’t feel like having one is wrong.’ My baby is 8.5 months and we aren’t going to try for a baby until they’re about 18-24 months mostly to increase my chances of VBAC, but I really love these podcasts.” 

Then she says, “Okay, I’ll stop raving now.” 

I love that. Her title is, “If you’re considering a VBAC, I highly recommend The VBAC Link.” 

Thank you so much to– I don’t actually know what your name is. Catasuperawesome on this Baby Bump Canada group. Just thank you so much for your review. As always, these reviews brighten our day here at The VBAC Link but most importantly, they help other Women of Strength find these stories like what we are going to be sharing today with Lauren’s story. They help people feel empowered and educated and motivated and even first-time moms. They are really truly helping people learn how to avoid unnecessary Cesareans. I truly believe that from the bottom of my heart. 

Meagan: Okay, Lauren. As you are rocking your sweet, precious babe, I would love to turn the time over to you to share your stories. 

Lauren: Awesome, thank you. It’s so nice to be here finally. I’m so excited because this podcast truly is the reason why I had my VBAC. 

I am kind of weirdly unique in that I didn’t really feel like I had any mothering instincts. My husband and I had been married for 6.5 years before we decided to get pregnant because I always swore off children. I said, “It’s not for me. I’m never going to have children. I want to travel and I want to do all of these things and children are for other people. I can’t imagine myself as a mom.” 

My husband said, “Well, let’s wait until we are 30,” because we got married really young. He was like, “Let’s just wait until we are 30 and we will revisit the discussion.” I always find it kind of nice when I hear stories of women who feel similarly to the way I did because it’s so relatable and I feel like we are very few and far between. That’s another reason I wanted to share my story because I know there are other women out there like me. 

So anyway, it just so happened that at this time, my sister was pregnant. My brother was pregnant. My husband’s brother was pregnant. We were like, “You know, we’re almost 30. We’ve waited a long time. If we’re going to have kids, we might as well have a kid when he or she is going to have all of these cousins.” 

My husband was like, “Let’s start trying.” I’m like, “Great. I’m going to give it two months and if we don’t get pregnant, we’re not going forward with this. I’m going to say I tried and I can tell everyone I tried and that it didn’t work.” 

Well, God has a sense of humor because two weeks later, I had a positive pregnancy test. 

Meagan: Two weeks later? 

Lauren: Yes. 

Meagan: So you were already pregnant when you had this conversation. 

Lauren: I was already taking birth control. I was multiple days into the pack. I just threw it in the trash and was like, “Let’s just see what happens.” I guess when you do that, you can get pregnant. I don’t know. I didn’t really have a cycle. I got pregnant. 

I was so naive about how it all worked. I’m like, “Okay. The test is positive. I’m pregnant. It is what it is. I’m very much pregnant.” I had not doubt. I had no worry about miscarriage, nothing because I had a positive pregnancy test. That’s sort of how I went through my pregnancy, kind of disconnected, very naive, and a little bit in denial that I was actually pregnant all the way up until the end. 

I read one book and it was called The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy and it’s this really sarcastic, funny book. She’s very flippant about pregnancy and very straightforward with my sense of humor. I liked it because I felt the same way. I wasn’t mushy or emotional. I had no connection to the pregnancy. I am pregnant. That’s a fact. 

Anyway, at 26 weeks, my doctor was like, “You know, I think he’s breech.” I was like, “Okay.” I knew what breech was, but I’m like, “Okay, what does that mean?” She was like, “Well, I would start doing some Spinning Babies exercises. Let’s just keep an eye on it. I was going to a chiropractor this whole time. This is important for people to know. I was going to a chiropractor before I even got pregnant regularly. 

This chiropractor was seeing me. I told her that the baby was breech. “Can you help me flip him? Can we do some bodywork?” I continued to see her. I don’t know if it was once or twice a week but it was often. 

36 weeks rolls around and I see the midwife in the practice. She is not finding the heartbeat where it should be. She finds it up higher and she goes, “Lauren, I think your baby is still breech.” I thought there was no way. I had been seeing a chiropractor. I had been doing body work and stuff. She was like, “Well, why don’t you go see the chiropractor that our practice recommends?” I’m like, “Okay.” I call this chiropractor on the phone. I leave her a message and I’m like, “I’ve been seeing another chiropract