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Eps 129 - The Danger of Making Your Kids Your Whole World | Identity, Enmeshment & the Parent Trap

Eps 129 - The Danger of Making Your Kids Your Whole World | Identity, Enmeshment & the Parent Trap

Update: 2025-10-06
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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore a deeply important and often misunderstood topic: what happens when your children become the center of your universe.

Ash shares her perspective as a parent who has seen how identity can dissolve into roles—mother, wife, daughter, teacher—until there’s nothing left of “you.” Dave brings the other side of the story: what it’s like to be the child of a parent who gave everything, and how that love, though well-intentioned, can become suffocating.

Together they unpack the emotional risks of over-identifying with parenthood and how to lovingly reclaim your own sense of self without abandoning your kids.


In this episode:

  • The hidden danger in “putting your kids first, always”

  • How identity loss fuels depression and disconnection in midlife

  • The enmeshment trap: when your child’s happiness becomes your responsibility

  • How parentification shapes anxious, over-responsible adults

  • Why good intentions aren’t always healthy dynamics

  • The difference between being a present parent and an over-involved one

  • Why letting your child be separate from you is an act of love


Ash and Dave open a vulnerable, necessary conversation about boundaries, selfhood, and breaking generational cycles—because love should liberate, not consume.


Reflection prompts:

  • Do you know who you are outside of your roles?

  • Where might you be taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions?

  • How can you model individuality for your children while staying connected?


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Disclaimer:
The Re-Mind Podcast shares general information about mental health, well-being, healing, and spiritual growth. This episode is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you need support, please reach out to a qualified professional.


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Eps 129 - The Danger of Making Your Kids Your Whole World | Identity, Enmeshment & the Parent Trap

Eps 129 - The Danger of Making Your Kids Your Whole World | Identity, Enmeshment & the Parent Trap

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