In this episode, we explore the intricate relationship between perfectionism and anxiety, particularly how perfectionism can hold you back, often paralleling imposter syndrome. Liz shares her personal journey through her current stage of growth and the discomfort it brings, including panic attacks following her stroke in 2015. She emphasises the importance of naming and bringing these feelings to light, recognizing that they are not reality but mental health triggers. By separating these thoughts from your identity, you gain power over them.

We discuss the critical question: "What story are you telling yourself?" In a high-achieving team, it's essential to be aware of who surrounds you and to run your own race. Gifted children often exhibit higher levels of anxiety and perfectionism, which is part of the process of self-understanding. Fear of making mistakes can lead to overly complicated tasks and halted progress, often manifesting as procrastination and spending excessive time on tasks.

Perfectionism and imposter syndrome are interconnected. Imposter syndrome can lead to perfectionism-driven tendencies, where individuals feel fraudulent and overthink tasks to the point of paralysis. It's crucial to manage these tendencies by being okay with imperfection and understanding that mastery is messy.

We highlight the impact of perfectionism on parenting, where perfectionist parents may project their anxiety onto their children, blocking their ability to learn. Breaking these generational cycles requires healing and mindful communication. The language we use with children, such as saying "that's perfect" or "great job," can significantly impact their self-perception.

Solutions and Strategies:

• Trust yourself and recall past achievements.


• Balance evidence-based practices with practical execution.


• Be aware of your thoughts and do not let negative thoughts dictate your behavior.


• In moments of doubt, remind yourself of your goals and the impact you wish to achieve.


• Accept that growth challenges may cause you to shrink back, but perseverance is key.


• Keep things simple and avoid overthinking.


• Surround yourself with positive energy and consider an accountability partner.


• Use templates and systems to keep you on track.


• Seek professional help from a counselor or psychologist if needed.


• Implement and execute your plans, even if it means throwing yourself in the deep end to learn and trust yourself.


• Understand that failure is part of learning and development.


• Be mindful of the language you use to praise yourself and others.

To view Lizzy’s courses 

www.lizzydawson.com.au

To view Emily’s resources and courses: 

www.emilymackie.com.au