Fighting for Uniqueness in a World of Copycats
While everything around us is getting louder and faster, we’re striving even harder to be liked, appreciated, loved, or even idolized. No wonder you’re confused. Remember, you’ve been led for centuries to believe that human uniqueness is wonderful when it benefits society, however it’s detrimental when it’s deployed for your own good.
The expression ‘survival of the fittest’ used
over and over again in books, magazines, movies and documentaries as a synonym
for natural selection has totally blurred your mind leaving you clueless,
shoeless in a world that is desperately trying to impose you the thinking
pattern of political correctness.
Are you battling to fit in into society, school, the entrepreneurial lifestyle, some crazy fashion trend, or other ‘fill in the blanks’?
Are you still mesmerized by the often described
as “arrogant”, “uncompromising”, “careless” and “cheeky” few that live by their
convictions, stay true to themselves and harness the power of uniqueness AKA
pull all the benefits out of being different?
Let’s all pause for a second, take a deep
breathe and allow our very being to penetrate all that is.
We’re close to 8 billion people living on
planet Earth. AND we’re all different. There are no two people alike. None.
[2019 World population according to Wikipedia: 7,7 billion people]
We have different DNAs. The color of our eyes,
hair and skin is different. Our heads and bodies have different shapes. Even
our smiles look different.
Yet, instead of being celebrated for our
uniqueness, we are being trained our entire lives to build communities and
think, speak, act, dress and behave in a certain way. It’s the group herd
mentality. Those who don’t comply get kicked out of the herd and are left
alone, to either find a new herd, create their own group, stay alone or even
That’s the so-called punishment.
The vast majority of people are afraid of this
punishment. They decide to literally turn off their inner light and conform.
The few that rely on themselves by learning to build and strengthen confidence
to follow their inner calling, leave the herd and often create magical things
and live extraordinary lives.
These are the misfits, the Steve Jobs, Bill
Gates and Warren Buffets we look up to and idolize.
These fellow humans are no different than you
and I. What makes them different though is they’re inner strength to go against
the odds, swim upstream, not giving a crap about what society, family, peers
and naysayers have to say about them.
The individuals we so admire today have all had
their doubts, fears and frustrations, yet they didn’t let these stop them from
learning to use their unique abilities, gifts and talents to pursue their
dreams and live what ‘outsiders’ consider mind-blowingly successful lives.
Why Your Uniqueness Matters
Aren’t babies phenomenal?
No matter what they do, we love them. They
laugh and we adore them. They scream, we feed them and continue adoring them.
Until the age of 2 or 3 we adore everything about our baby/ child. And then
comes the turning point. Suddenly, when they scream, we tell them to shut up.
Worse, we threaten or punish them.
We do this once, twice, three times. The brain
remembers. The re-programming begins.
What happens to their cute uniqueness?
While time passes, this numbness becomes
normality. Whether one day they’ll find the courage to embrace their true self
or not, is totally up to every single individual.
If you’re reading this and you’re one of those
people, wake up. Don’t leave this planet with the muse and music in you.
Your uniqueness matters; a lot!
It’s never late to let your true self shine
again. It’s never impossible to unleash your inner power and take a different
route – even if that means learning a new skill set, finding a new job or
starting a new business endeavor, leaving an unfulfilled relationship for a
more meaningful one, getting your health back on track, embarking on that trip
you always wanted.
The last thing this world needs is more
copycats. We have enough followers and admirers. We are overpopulated with
wannabees (I wanna be like Jay Z, I wanna be like Mark Zuckerberg etc.) and
Embrace your uniqueness.
Be who you are at your core. Let the world see
and experience what’s special about you. This isn’t a rant about authenticity
(another misused word). It’s about allowing the torch to be dislodged from the
mounting and be put to good use again.
Your extraordinary gifts and talents is what we need. The more you allow yourself to shine, the happier and more fulfilling your life will be.
Living an unfulfilled life is the ultimate failure.
We’ve been conditioned by the educational
system, the media, parents and peers to think that living an unfulfilled life
“You can’t have it all” or “you can’t be happy,
have money, a great marriage and be healthy at the same time” – this ‘amazing’
advice has done you more damage than you think.
Yes, a fulfilled life is possible. To you, to
me, to all of us.
Yes, a fulfilled life is what we should all
And notice: I didn’t say successful life.
The reason for that is very simple: success has
a different meaning to every single one of us.
Life is not about success. You’ve been misled,
just like I was, to think and believe that success is everything. It’s not.
Living a fulfilled and blissful life, that’s
what the experience on planet Earth is all about.
Ask high-performance individuals or spiritual
leaders and they will all tell you the same thing. Choose a fulfilled and
blissful life over everything else.
Never Stop Being Your True Self
”Be yourself – everyone else is already taken.”
– Oscar Wilde
Blaze your own trail in life.
Dare to express yourself in your unique way.
Whether you leave the crowd or not, people will
judge you anyway. What other people think or say doesn’t matter. Allow your
individuality to shine through.
Life is short. It’s a journey that doesn’t
require you to copy anyone nor is it a likeability contest of some sort. Don’t
let your mind be trapped in that game. Get out of the prison.
Become a great example for others and start
attracting the right people into your world. The moment you leave your comfort
zone, shift your energy and start living by your own standards, you will tap
into the natural flow of the universe. This is when life will start working
with you, not against you.
Are you ready to finally step into your uniqueness and own it?