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From HG TFMR shame to baby loss community: Emily's story (PART 2 of 2)

From HG TFMR shame to baby loss community: Emily's story (PART 2 of 2)

Update: 2025-10-02
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Are you struggling with shame about your TFMR? In Part 2 of 2, Emily Cross opens up about the years she spent lying about her hyperemesis gravidarum TFMR, telling people she miscarried instead of admitting she "chose" abortion.

When Emily's third pregnancy resulted in her son Marty, who lived four precious weeks before dying of SIDS, everything changed. Suddenly finding herself in baby loss communities, Emily realized something profound: she qualified. Her TFMR was ALSO real baby loss, deserving of the same grief and support as any other loss.

Emily shares how losing Marty gave her permission to finally grieve her first baby without shame, why there's no hierarchy in baby loss, and how finding her place in the baby loss community changed everything about how she saw her TFMR experience.


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Read Emily’s story in this Boston Globe article


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Send me an email at sabrina @ the tfmr doula . com to get 1on1 support/ a support call. You don’t have to go through this alone.


If you are looking for a kind ear as you decide whether TFMR or carrying to term will be right for you, (or help making a D&E or labor and delivery decision) schedule your Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html


www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings



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From HG TFMR shame to baby loss community: Emily's story (PART 2 of 2)

From HG TFMR shame to baby loss community: Emily's story (PART 2 of 2)

Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents