What happens when a high-achieving, well-meaning husband wakes up to the reality that his wife has been emotionally gone for years?

That’s exactly what happened to Chris—a successful business owner, father of three, and Ironman competitor who thought he was checking all the right boxes. He provided, he stayed loyal, he was involved at church, and he pushed himself to grow… but behind the scenes, his marriage was quietly unraveling.

In this raw and deeply relatable conversation, Chris shares what it was like to discover that the woman he loved no longer felt safe, seen, or even attracted to him. And it wasn’t because he was lazy, abusive, or absent—it was because, like many men, he didn’t know how emotionally disconnected he had become.

He was leading everywhere but home.

We dive into the painful wake-up moment that flipped his world upside down, why his wife described their marriage like living on a sinking ship, and how his attempts to “fix” things only made her shut down more. But more importantly, Chris reveals what finally worked: getting out of performance mode, doing the inner work, and letting himself be truly seen—not just by his wife, but by a community of men who refused to let him settle for less than a full, wholehearted life.

This episode is for any man who:

• Feels like he’s doing everything “right” but it’s never enough
• Gets reactive or defensive when his wife shares how she feels
• Has been called controlling, emotionally unavailable, or even narcissistic
• Is terrified that his marriage might be beyond repair
• Is stuck in shame, confusion, and hopelessness about what to do next

Chris’s journey is a powerful reminder that transformation doesn’t start by fixing your wife—it starts by facing yourself.

And when a man begins to source love and validation from within instead of waiting for it from others, everything changes. His leadership grows. His marriage shifts. His kids notice. His world opens up.

If you’re tired of waiting, blaming, and living on emotional eggshells, this conversation will speak directly to your heart—and show you what’s possible on the other side of stuckness.

It starts with ownership. It grows in community. It leads to freedom.

Check out https://masterful.men to begin your own journey.

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