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What happens when you build your entire identity on who others expect you to be – then finally find the courage to live as your authentic self? In this extraordinarily vulnerable conversation, I speak with Romy Marie – certified identity coach, mother, entrepreneur, and former cast member of Showtime's "The Real L Word" – though we'd never met before hitting record.

Romi takes us through her journey that began with childhood survival, where she learned that creating drama and "being sick" would earn her the attention she desperately craved from her busy single mother and absent father. This pattern followed her into adolescence, where mental health diagnoses became part of an identity that eventually led to substance abuse as a means of numbing her inner turmoil.

The conversation reaches profound depths when Romi courageously discusses how her sexuality became intertwined with her search for validation and attention. After years in the public eye as a lesbian reality TV star, therapy helped her question whether this identity had been another survival mechanism – a realization that challenged everything about how she'd presented herself to the world.

"I don't need the attention. For the first time in my life, it's so relaxing and quiet and calm," Romi shares, describing her current life that prioritizes peace, motherhood, and spiritual connection over external validation. She reveals how sobriety, faith, and radical honesty with herself have created a contentment she never thought possible.

This conversation isn't just about addiction recovery – it's about the universal human struggle to separate who we truly are from the identities we construct to survive. Whether you're navigating sobriety, questioning aspects of your identity, or simply feeling exhausted by performing for others, Romi's journey offers hope that returning home to your authentic self is not only possible – it's the gateway to the peace you've been seeking all along.

Ready to explore your own authentic identity? Connect with Romi at MadreRomi.com to book a discovery call and see if working with her might support your journey.

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