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How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship

How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship

Update: 2021-05-111
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Diane feels like she’s constantly picking fights with her partner Mohammed—when he forgets to grab tomatoes from the grocery store or drops the ball on planning their son’s birthday party. Their conflicts are complicated by layers of cultural differences: Mohammed is a Syrian refugee, Diane is an American, and they live in the Netherlands. “He lived through a war, so I can’t win any argument,” says Diane, who is increasingly desperate to find a solution. On this episode of How To!, we bring on investigative journalist Amanda Ripley, author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda reveals that conflict can actually be good—as long as anger, and not contempt, is at its core. Drawing from her research on astronauts, gang members and politicians, Amanda coaches Diane through techniques that can help all of us have better fights. 

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Win Arguments Like a Hostage Negotiator.”

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Khanoomzii

So since the man is fun to spend time with, woman is the one who should carry the burden of home chores, errands, children's stuff, household planning and so on, and to make things more interesting, she must seek help on how to keep a tension-free conversation about all that stuff with a man who does not even care to listen, or just to stay awake! I'm really mad how you guys handle that subject, regarding the pressure women are undertaking with the unfair burden of domestic responsibilities worldwide!

May 12th
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How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship

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