In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla unpack the messy reality of family differences—why gatherings can trigger us, how long-held “rules of the game” shape family conflict, and what we can do to stay grounded when things get heated. They explore common sources of family drama—holidays, parenting, politics, religion, and generational expectations—and how guilt, resentment, and old patterns keep us stuck. Ultimately, the conversation centers on learning to slow down, identify our triggers, set boundaries with compassion, and find ways to stay connected even when we disagree.

Main Talking Points:

- Common sources of family conflict (holidays, parenting, money, politics)

- “Rules of the game” in family systems

- Understanding triggers and nervous system responses

- Balancing boundaries with connection

- Compassionate communication and timing

- What you can—and can’t—control in family relationships

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