We sit down with Dr. Jordan Rullo to unpack why sexual desire often misfires, how brakes and gas shape intimacy, and why responsive desire is just as healthy as spontaneous desire. We share practical tools to manage mismatch, avoid pressure, and build trust through small rituals.

• Brake and gas model of sexual function
• Causes of low desire across biology, psychology, relationship, culture
• Spontaneous versus responsive desire explained
• Desire discrepancy as a perpetual problem and acceptance
• Why scheduling sex backfires and scheduling connection works
• Avoidant dynamic and how rejection spirals happen
• Consensual unwanted sex and bodily autonomy
• When to involve medical providers and rule out health issues
• Friendship, trust, and Gottman’s Magic Six Hours
• Weekly State of the Union and sexual communication habits
• Prioritization, maintenance plans, and recommended resources

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