In today’s video, I speak about how to overcome regrets in life.







Watch below to learn about how to overcome regrets in life.



















Zachary Stockill: If you live long enough, it’s almost certain you’ll accumulate some regrets. But how do you begin letting them go and working through them?







That’s what I’ll try to answer in today’s short video.







I’m Zachary Stockill, and since 2013, I’ve been helping people from around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and save their relationships.







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Recently, I received a short email that inspired this video. The sender simply wrote, “I have regrets in life. How do I start overcoming them?” This is a big topic, but I’ll try to break it down into some key points.







First, if you have regrets, remember that dwelling on the past is time wasted.







I know that’s easier said than done, but let’s break it down a bit further.







At its core, it’s true that any time spent lamenting the past is wasted because there’s nothing you can do to change it. I can’t do anything about what happened five seconds ago, let alone ten years ago.







The only thing I have any control over is the present moment. So my main tip is to always keep this in mind: any time spent regretting the past is time lost.







That said, there’s an important point to keep in mind. The past has countless lessons to teach us.







I’ve learned so much from my own experiences—my mistakes, successes, failures, and everything in between.







That’s how we grow. We make mistakes, achieve goals, reflect on what happened, and use those lessons to move forward.















Sometimes, reflecting on the past can be valuable. It allows you to uncover important lessons that need to be learned.







If you’re dwelling on something from your past, it likely holds a lesson, an insight, or some useful knowledge.







It could be something straightforward, like realizing you should never do that again, that you need to put more effort into a certain area, or that you should absolutely try to repeat something that worked well.”







Simply put, that’s often how regrets work: ‘I wish I hadn’t done that,’ or ‘I wish I had done that.’







Sometimes, there’s wisdom in those feelings, a lesson to be learned.







I’m not suggesting you ignore that—those lessons are incredibly valuable. That’s where the real insight lies when it comes to reflecting on or lamenting the past.







Learn the lesson that needs to be learned, and make sure to crystalize it. By that, I mean it’s not enough to just think about it and try to keep it in your mind.







I strongly recommend writing it down in a journal, recording a voice note, or using any method that helps you make the lesson more concrete.



















Find a way to clearly express the lesson you’ve learned. Write it down, record it, or document it in a way that you can revisit later.







This is why many people keep a journal over the years.