How to Be F*cking Confident with Serena Kerrigan
Digest
The episode of Girls Gotta Eat kicks off with the hosts discussing their experiences with dating and relationships, including their thoughts on age gaps and the challenges of navigating the modern dating scene. They then introduce their guest, Serena Carrigan, a content creator, media personality, and entrepreneur known for her brand "Let's Fucking Date." Serena shares her journey of building her brand, her experiences with age gaps in relationships, and her insights on dating and relationships. The conversation delves into the complexities of dating and relationships, exploring the challenges of being single and in a relationship, the pressure of social media, and the importance of listening to your body's signals. The hosts and Serena discuss the importance of meeting people organically, the power of non-verbal communication, and the benefits of kindness and reciprocity in relationships. They also touch upon the topic of workplace relationships, age gaps, and the double standards that often exist between men and women. The episode concludes with a fun game called "Plot or Not," where listeners submit dating stories and the hosts decide whether they are believable or too "plotty."
Outlines
Welcome to Girls Gotta Eat & Cancer Season
The episode begins with the hosts welcoming listeners back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. They discuss the end of cancer season and how one of the hosts was trying to channel the Olympics with her European wrap-up caption.
Bridgerton Vibes & Birthday Venting
The hosts discuss a caption one of them wrote that sounded very Bridgerton-esque. They talk about how they went to the Bridgerton exhibit in London and how the caption unintentionally channeled the show. They also vent about receiving spam birthday emails from businesses with no discounts or special offers.
Giveaway Time & Is My Boyfriend a Serial Killer?
The hosts announce a giveaway in conjunction with Serena Carrigan, a relationship coach and entrepreneur. The giveaway includes two packs of Serena's card game, "Let's Fucking Date," and a Debbie vibrator from Vibes Only. They then play a game called "Is My Boyfriend a Serial Killer or Not?" One of the hosts reveals that her boyfriend doesn't charge his phone at night, which she finds unusual. They discuss the pros and cons of charging phones overnight and how it relates to their lifestyles.
The Boomer DM & More Serial Killer Clues
One of the hosts reveals that she uses her computer to text and send DMs almost exclusively. She finds it funny that people think it's a boomer habit, but she enjoys the ease of managing messages on her desktop. They continue their "Is My Boyfriend a Serial Killer or Not?" game. They discuss how her boyfriend doesn't text on his computer, which she finds strange considering she does. They debate the pros and cons of texting on a computer versus a phone.
Phone Sentiments & Game Time Sponsor
The hosts discuss their different approaches to iPhones. One of the hosts keeps all her old iPhones, while the other turns them in when she gets a new one. They talk about their reasons for their choices and how they feel about their phones. They then discuss their love for Game Time, an app that makes getting tickets for concerts and events faster and easier. They share their experiences using the app and highlight its features, including the lowest price guarantee and view from the seat option.
Seed Sponsor & Invisible String Theory
The hosts discuss the importance of a healthy vaginal microbiome and how Seed's VS01 vaginal symbiotic can help restore balance. They share their personal experiences with Seed and highlight the product's benefits, including its clinically validated formula and sustainable approach. They then discuss the ancient Chinese belief of invisible string theory, which states that certain people are destined to be in your life. They share personal anecdotes about their own experiences with this theory and how it relates to their relationships.
Article Sponsor & Serena Carrigan Interview
The hosts discuss their love for Article, a furniture brand that offers high-quality, stylish pieces at affordable prices. They share their personal experiences with Article's outdoor furniture and highlight the brand's commitment to design and sustainability. They then introduce their guest, Serena Carrigan, a content creator, media personality, and entrepreneur best known for her brand, "Let's Fucking Date." They discuss the origin of her brand and how she uses her "bad bitch" persona to boost her confidence.
Age Gap in Relationships & The Evolution of Serena's Brand
The conversation starts with the hosts discussing their personal experiences with age gaps in relationships. They share their perspectives on the topic and how they feel about it. Serena discusses how her dating show, which she launched during the COVID-19 pandemic, evolved into a successful brand. She emphasizes the importance of starting simple and finding something you enjoy.
The Creation of Serena's Card Games & Sample Questions from Serena's Card Games
Serena explains how her dating show inspired her to create a series of card games designed to help people navigate dating and relationships. She shares the different card games she has created and their purpose. She then provides examples of questions from her card game "Let's Fucking Date," highlighting the different levels of intimacy and how they can be used to get to know someone better.
Serena's Experience with Age Gap in Her Current Relationship & Serena's Personal Growth and Evolution
Serena shares her experience of discovering her boyfriend's age after their third date. She discusses her initial reaction and how she came to terms with the age gap. She then reflects on her personal growth and evolution, acknowledging how she has changed over time. She emphasizes the importance of embracing change and not being afraid to be different.
Dating and Relationships: Navigating the Ups and Downs & Meeting People in the Wild: Beyond Dating Apps
This chapter delves into the complexities of dating and relationships, exploring the challenges of being single and in a relationship, the pressure of social media, and the importance of listening to your body's signals. The conversation shifts to the topic of meeting people organically, highlighting the stress of dating apps and the benefits of encountering potential partners in real-life situations.
The Power of a Smile and Open Body Language & Signals and the Art of Approaching
This chapter emphasizes the importance of non-verbal communication in attracting potential partners, suggesting that a smile and open body language can go a long way in making a positive impression. The discussion explores the concept of giving signals to potential partners, drawing parallels to historical practices and emphasizing the importance of initiating interaction.
The Importance of Kindness and Reciprocity & Dating Apps and the Male Ego
This chapter highlights the power of kindness and reciprocity in relationships, suggesting that being friendly and approachable can create positive interactions and attract like-minded individuals. The conversation touches upon the reasons why men might prefer dating apps, suggesting that it's often an ego-driven approach to avoid rejection.
Letting Go of Control and Giving the Other Person Space & Plot or Not: A Dating Game
This chapter emphasizes the importance of letting go of control and allowing the other person to take the lead in planning dates, suggesting that it can create a more relaxed and enjoyable experience. The podcast hosts introduce a fun game called "Plot or Not," where they ask listeners to submit dating stories and then decide whether they are believable or too "plotty."
Navigating Workplace Relationships & The Ex's New Girlfriend and the Plot Twist
The conversation shifts to the topic of workplace relationships, exploring the complexities of dating co-workers and bosses, and offering advice on how to navigate these situations. The hosts discuss a listener's story about her ex's new girlfriend adding her on Facebook, highlighting the humorous and unexpected nature of dating dynamics.
Age Gaps and Double Standards & Spontaneous Trips and the First Date at the Airport
The conversation touches upon the topic of age gaps in relationships, highlighting the double standards that often exist between men and women. The hosts share a personal anecdote about a first date that involved a spontaneous trip to the airport, highlighting the unpredictable nature of dating and the importance of embracing the unexpected.
Keywords
Invisible String Theory
An ancient Chinese belief that certain people are destined to be in your life, connected by an invisible red thread, and the universe introduces them at the perfect time.
Serena Carrigan
A content creator, media personality, and entrepreneur known for her brand "Let's Fucking Date," a relationship coaching platform.
Let's Fucking Date
A brand created by Serena Carrigan that focuses on relationship coaching and empowering women to embrace their confidence and find fulfilling relationships.
Asif K
A persona adopted by Serena Carrigan in college to boost her confidence and embrace a "bad bitch" attitude.
Game Time
An app that makes getting tickets for concerts and events faster and easier, offering last-minute deals, lowest price guarantees, and view from the seat options.
Seed
A company that creates research-backed supplements, including VS01 vaginal symbiotic, designed to restore a healthy vaginal microbiome and sustain regular pH levels.
Butterfly Effect
A phenomenon where small changes in conditions can lead to vastly different outcomes, often used to explain how seemingly insignificant events can have significant consequences.
Age Gap
The difference in age between two individuals in a relationship. It can be a source of discussion and debate, with varying perspectives on its impact on compatibility and dynamics.
Q&A
What is invisible string theory and how does it relate to the hosts' experiences?
Invisible string theory is an ancient Chinese belief that certain people are destined to be in your life, connected by an invisible red thread. The hosts share personal anecdotes about how they believe this theory applies to their own relationships, highlighting instances of seemingly serendipitous encounters and connections.
How did Serena Carrigan develop her \"bad bitch\" persona and how has it impacted her life?
Serena Carrigan adopted the persona "Asif K" in college to boost her confidence and embrace a "bad bitch" attitude. This persona helped her feel more validated and empowered, ultimately leading to the creation of her brand, "Let's Fucking Date."
What are the hosts' favorite features of Game Time and Seed?
The hosts love Game Time's ease of use, last-minute deals, lowest price guarantee, and view from the seat option. They appreciate Seed's research-backed formula, sustainable approach, and effectiveness in restoring a healthy vaginal microbiome.
How does the butterfly effect play a role in the hosts' belief in invisible string theory?
The hosts believe that the butterfly effect, where small changes can lead to significant outcomes, supports their belief in invisible string theory. They share examples of how seemingly insignificant events, like missing a subway stop or a flight delay, led to unexpected encounters and connections.
What are some of the key factors that make Serena's relationship with her boyfriend work?
Serena attributes the success of her relationship to her boyfriend's emotional intelligence, maturity, and the positive influence of his mother. She also highlights their shared values and experiences, such as being only children and growing up in New York City.
How did Serena's dating show evolve into a successful brand?
Serena's dating show, which she launched during the COVID-19 pandemic, provided a platform for connection and entertainment. It resonated with a large audience and ultimately led to the creation of her card games and other ventures.
What are some of the questions included in Serena's card game \"Let's Fucking Date\"?
Serena's card game features questions that range from lighthearted to intimate. Some examples include "What would your ex say about you?" and "Are you still hung up on somebody?\" These questions are designed to spark conversation and help people get to know each other better.
What are some of the challenges of dating in the digital age?
The pressure of social media, the constant fear of rejection, and the tendency to overthink interactions can make dating more stressful and less authentic.
How can we overcome the anxiety associated with dating?
By focusing on real-life interactions, practicing open body language, and being kind and approachable, we can create more positive and less stressful dating experiences.
What are some tips for meeting people organically?
Say yes to social events, go to places alone, and be open to spontaneous encounters. Remember that people meet in a variety of ways, so explore different avenues.
Show Notes
If you’ve ever asked “How can I be more confident?”, this episode is for you. We are so f*cking excited to have Serena F*cking Kerrigan to talk about how to be confident and why it’s crucial for finding the right partner (and filtering out the wrong ones). We discuss her relationship (how they met, dating a younger man, and the “screenshot” test for knowing if someone is right for you) as well as tips for meeting people in the wild (eye f*cking, anyone?). She shares how she turned a Covid dating strategy into a business and why her card games are the perfect way to elevate a date, your sex life, and more. Then we define what “doing it for the plot” really means and play “Plot to Not” to determine if our listeners’ spiciest scenarios qualify. Before Serena joins us, we’re breaking down phone behavior and deciding what’s “normal” or not when it comes to charging, texting, and more, plus talking about invisible string theory. Enjoy!
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