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Have you ever felt that sinking feeling during a meeting or conversation when you realize you’re losing the room—people are checking their phones, yawning, or just looking right through you? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle exactly that challenge: how to read the room and respond in real time so you stay connected, engaged, and in control whenever you speak.

As someone who transitioned from being a college professor to a communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how common these scenarios are—and I know how disheartening it can be when you feel your message isn’t landing. But here’s the good news: reading a room and understanding the invisible feedback loop in every group interaction isn’t an innate superpower. It’s a practical set of observation skills that anyone can learn and refine.

Here’s what we covered in this episode:

• Why reading the room is about observation, not mind-reading—and why anyone can learn it
• The big myth about social intelligence—and how being a better observer is the real secret
• The four universal behavioral cues that signal audience engagement (phone checking, yawning, fidgeting, blank stares)
• Real-world examples: what these cues mean in meetings, networking events, and interviews
• The importance of interpreting cues in context (and the dangers of knee-jerk misinterpretations)
• Easy, low-pressure ways to scan a room and spot behavioral patterns
• How to respond when you see signs of disengagement—without making it awkward or calling people out
• Techniques to shift energy, boost engagement, and reset the group dynamic
• Transitioning from self-consciousness to others-awareness to become a more intentional and confident communicator
• A simple exercise to practice observation skills in your next meeting

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a set of repeatable techniques to help you read any room and respond with confidence—no matter the situation. Remember, it’s about progress, not perfection, and every conversation is a chance to build this skill.

If you want to dive deeper, head over to speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook on overcoming the top public speaking challenges, and check out the format for the Public Speaking course. Your voice is powerful, and it’s time to use it to change your world.

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