How to Recognize Hijackals®. Their Patterns, Traits & Cycles
HIJACKALS®! They exist! You've likely met one or two. Most everyone has.
There is no real need for a diagnosis. The Hijackal will not subject him or herself to one, anyway. After all, s/he is perfect, right?
All you really need to have is the ability to clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of these relentlessly difficult people, and know what to do to not become their prey! They are emotional predators.
I created and trademarked this term, #Hijackals, to give you a way to easily talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people in your life, and in a non-clinical way. After all, what you need is to know what to do when you're in a relationship with one, right? That begins with clearly being able to identify a toxic person's behaviors, and know that there are those patterns. That's helpful!
Hijackals like to push you away. They do their upmost to push your buttons...or, at least, it sure feels that way. You might be surprised to learn today that they are really doing that for other reasons than driving you to drink!
Not only do they like to shove you away, but they also then make you wrong for going, and then demand that you stay. Crazy-making!
That's why today's episode is so important to clearly seeing what's really going on!
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why "overgiving" to a Hijackal is a really bad idea
- Why difficult people can't see what they're doing, even when you point it out
- Why Hijackals have such a need for power and control
- Dr. Shaler's definition of her term, Hijackals®: "People who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control." Know one now?
I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.
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I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,
The Relationship Help Doctor
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